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Btnmum · 25/10/2020 11:07

Need some advice. My partner keeps staying out all night, he has done this lots over the years and more over the last year.

He was at the pub Friday night and we had an argument over the phone (relating to him going out) then he stayed out all night whilst I looked after our 1 year old.

Spoke to partner the next day and he said it was my fault that he stayed out drinking and doing drugs because we argued over the phone and I swore at him. I did over react but I'm tired of holding the fort and worrying about him whilst he does this.

I said I didn't want him in the house on Saturday still out of his face and to stay away. I said he could come back today and get some stuff on Sunday. He carried on the drug taking Saturday night and then this morning (Sunday) I spoke to him and he said he would be coming back whenever he wants to sleep and stay as it is half his flat.

I wanted him to sober up but he has done the opposite and now he's just going to come back here hanging and probably still high. I really don't want him here but I can't lock him out. I get anxious about when he comes back.

I don't know what to do. I hate just having to put up with this behaviour. He's never been violent but he's emotionally volatile and I just don't want the drama around our child.

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PersonaNonGarter · 25/10/2020 21:38

Sorry you are going through this @Btnmum

Did he come back?

You know this isn’t right and it is no way to raise a child. Is he likely to change? Of course not.

AFitOfTheVapours · 25/10/2020 21:55

Sorry OP, this sounds awful. He hasn’t changed, despite you asking, and he’s blaming his benders on you because you called him out. You are not unreasonable to call him out, it is his reaction that is unreasonable.

Your dc is going to be damaged if this carries on, but I doubt you need me to point that out. Unless he really wants to change, he won’t. Have you considered asking him to leave?

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