Looking for advice. My friend of nearly 40 years is an alcoholic. She’s had a shit life, looks fabulous on the face of it, nice house good job , 4 lovely kids along the way, but I suspect emotional abuse in all of her marriages.
She’s so sick I’m worried she’s going to die, yet this morning when I was sent to babysit her so she couldn’t drink, I saw so much of the friend I’ve always known.i asked her this morning was her current DH controlling / abusive and she said as much which is what we have suspected for a long time. But no one will believe her in this fuddled state. Due to an incident at home last weekend she ended up in emergency accommodation this week, and what I can only describe as unspeakable things have happened to her there. I visited two of the three nights she was there, I’m not easily scared and I’ve been around the block but I was terrified myself.
I’ve told her when she can stop drinking I can help and I will do everything I can, But I’m at a loss how to help her. My own DM died of alcoholism so it’s not new to me, but I would be bereft if anything happened to my lovely sparky resilient friend.
I can only send bland texts as They go to her DH phone as well, I don’t know whether this is because she’s been so unpredictable and gone AWOL a few times but I can therefore only speak to her phone.
I know she has to want to give up but if there are any pearls of wisdom they would be gratefully received .