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Today I told my Darling Mother

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BingoDingo · 24/07/2020 20:35

... that I know she is an alcoholic and has been for several years.
Her serious addiction has always been the elephant in the room. For years I have tiptoed around her drunken phone calls, deceitfulness and inability to hold down any relationships (love or friendship) I am the last person standing by her and today something finally snapped.
I called her at midday about nothing in particular and she was slurring down the phone, unable to string a sentence together. At Midday.
The worst thing of all is that she is supposed to be working from Home which is telephone based.
I hung up the Phone and sent her a very direct message, I said I wouldn't pretend I didn't know anymore for fear of her cutting contact with Me. I told her I loved her and could not watch her slowly kill herself much longer.
To my surprise she replied and apologised profusely, she went on to say how embarrassed she was at who she had turned into. Her messages ended with her saying she would be in contact again once she had resolved the situation or made plans to get help.
The message exchange broke my heart and I realise this may not happen, she may just polish her hiding skills as we've been in this situation before, several times but everytime I still remain hopeful that this may just be the time she changes.
Sorry for the long post, I just needed to vent somewhere 💕

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AFitOfTheVapours · 24/07/2020 21:29

Sounds like you got through to her Bingo. It’s hard to confront the elephant in the room and funny how you can go on as “normal” for ages and then something just snaps. Hope you are ok. If you’ve been here before, are you keen to help her towards help or have you been there too many times and are leaving it to her? Have you tried Alanon or Nacoa for some support for you?

Kasparovski · 28/07/2020 20:42

Well it’s brave of you OP... it really only her actions can speak more than words. She can’t just ‘resolve the situation’ ...it will take a really determination and inner strength to face the pain of addiction and to willingly wish for a future life of total abstinence. Good luck op and you look after You!

iamyourequal · 28/07/2020 20:49

Well done for speaking up , that won’t have been easy at all. I guess you will need to see what action, if any she takes. She might realise she needs to stop drinking completely which would be great. If she is like my DF, who I confronted before, she might just try and cut her drinking back to more respectable hours and think that’s the problem solved, which it most likely won’t be. Good luck.

SummerHouse · 28/07/2020 20:52

You did good op and that's the best response you could hope for. It's down to her now. Flowers

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