My husband has a problem with alcohol. He doesn't drink every day but when he does have a drink he can't just have one drink. He has to get smashed. He has an office that is a separate building from the house and he often goes into there to listen to music or do whatever in the evening. He came in this evening because we had arranged to spend some time together and watch some TV. When he came in he was obviously pissed. I calmly told him that I've had enough. That I don't like who he becomes when he is drunk. I don't want to have to listen to him slur his words and pretend to be keeping up with the programme we have been watching together. It's not that he is horrible or abusive, he's as soft as anything, but I just don't like the person he becomes when he is drunk. He's annoying and I hate spending time with someone who is on a different plain. He said he would sleep in the spare room and he has gone off to bed. I feel terrible. I'm worried that we are going to have a massive argument about this tomorrow. I'm worried that by refusing to tolerate it I'll push him into hiding it more than he already does. I'm just after a bit of advice and sympathy really. He knows he has a problem, he has admitted it. He isn't a raging alcoholic but he cannot control himself at all once he has had a drink. He will just drink and drink to get as pissed as possible. I can't force him to stop. I don't want to nag him, or shame him, or condemn him. I don't know what to do. Was I wrong to say to him that I don't want to be around him when he's had a drink anymore? Sorry for rambling, thanks for reading.