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Alcohol support
I need to tell you all about my last 48 hours...
Jemmy360 · 15/11/2019 19:42
I've had a shocking first aid incident to deal with at work on Thursday, came home to open the post to find someone I was involved in a car accident with 3 years ago is trying to claim 250k off my insurance for a bruised leg and losing their sense of smell 🧐, and found out my mum has Cancer.
I dealt with the first aid, phoned the solicitor to be reassured that the ambulance chasers don't have much chance, and talked with my mum through the next steps in her treatment (it looks like it's been caught incredibly early, go to your checkups ladies)
Went in to work today and got screamed at out of the blue by a member of staff who has some mental health issues and appears not to be very well at the minute, dealt with that too, with kindness.
I'm telling you this because if any of this had happened before July, when I decided I had to stop drinking, I would have drowned my sorrows with a bottle or maybe two of wine on Thursday, felt awful on Friday and would probably have reacted really badly today at work when my colleague lost their rag.
Instead I just got on with everything and sorted out what I could. I'm still upset with all of it, but I'm not a complete mess, which I think I would have been if I was still downing between 4 and 6 bottles of wine a week.
I'm getting ready to enjoy my weekend with my husband and kids feeling quietly chuffed. X
iamyourequal · 15/11/2019 19:55
Well done. You have coped tremendously well by the sounds of it. I wish your mum a full and speedy recovery 
Bluewavescrashing · 15/11/2019 19:55
You should be so proud OP! You've come such a long way.
Being sober on a Friday night and waking up clear headed on a Saturday is a great feeling. Enjoy.
lljkk · 15/11/2019 20:01
Gosh, so sorry to hear about your mum. What kind of cancer (does she know)?
Life would be so boring if these things didn't happen...
Glad you're coping so well.
Jemmy360 · 15/11/2019 20:04
Thanks all. I don't post much on mn but I lurk a lot, and I know this board has been a great support to me over the last 5 months.
One of the benefits of going sober that shouldn't be underrated is how much better your mental well-being gets. No beer fear, or anxiety......it's lovely.
As well as how much better my skin is, my clothes fit, and I've got more money!
Jemmy360 · 15/11/2019 20:09
lljkk it's breast cancer, but it looks like it's very treatable, they are taking her in for a lumpectomy next week then probably some radiotherapy after. Thanks for asking, not the news anyone wants
Dirtyjellycat · 15/11/2019 20:12
Bloody fantastic OP, really well done.
I wish you and your mum all the best.
Oldstyle · 15/11/2019 20:19
Nice one OP. I don't underestimate how hard it is to get on the wagon and then to stay on it. Especially when there's stress in all directions.
NeedAUsernameGenerator · 15/11/2019 20:23
Well done OP, that's an incredible achievement.
Mummaofmytribe · 15/11/2019 20:54
Jemmy360 I just wanna say well done. I too stopped drinking, 4 years ago now. Best decision.
It's when you can get through difficult days and still not turn to the wine bottle that you know you're winning.
Best of luck to your mum too.
Jemmy360 · 15/11/2019 21:29
Thank you, thank you! I wasn't tempted at all. Dh had a couple of glasses of wine tonight and the rest is on the kitchen counter and I couldn't care less.
Mum seems to be the least worried out of all of us, and it sounds like the NHS is being bloody brilliant.
Becuna · 06/12/2019 18:51
What an amazing post. I came to this thread to ask about my Brother, which I will, but you have done so well.
I gave up smoking earlier this year and feel great, we should all boost each other.
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