Was my therapist inappropriate?

[Lotty32]

Have been seeing a therapist for 10 weeks for support with alcohol issues. Therapist asked if me and dh had had sex since I got home (6 weeks ago). I said yes and he asked was it good? I think therapist crossed the line with this question advice please as felt a little grossed out!

Was there context? What I mean by that had you previously talked about intimacy in your relationship?

Thx we had touched upon it very briefly in terms of intermacy but still thought it was a little odd!

Could he be asking from a point that alcohol could cause issues? If it was a female asking would you feel the same?

Fair point but as I haven't drunk for 10 weeks just seemed odd but thx for putting my mind at rest

Sorry but I do find that weird...you have gone for alcohol support right, not sex therapy? I thought therapists were meant to largely ask Open style questions allowing the client to say as much or as little as they feel comfortable saying .....it's strange to ask a closed question like that so directly. I'd see that as a red flag. sorry.

Totally inappropriate and frankly I'm surprised as a vulnerable adult you are seeing a male therapist! I'd ask to change in your position. Good luck

It is was asked within the overall framework of a drinkers day to day functionality - I.e eating, sleeping, socialising, sex life in very broad terms ...I'd get it. But to pluck that out of no where is very very odd.

I suppose he might have been trying to get you to notice the 'rewards' for not drinking (eg, sex is often better) - but it seems very awkwardly intimate. Have there been any other sense ever of inappropriacy on his part?

Tries to hug me which I am not comfortable with. Thx for all your comments and I have decided not to see him again for the moment. But went to my 4th AA meeting this am which I am getting loads out of them!

I've had a few counsellors over the years, a handshake is all the physical contact I'd ever feel comfortable with as it's a very vulnerable relationship for the client. Trying to hug me would have made me stop the sessions.