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Need to stop.

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jess3817 · 30/09/2019 16:38

I need to stop drinking, but i've tried many times and failed.
Use to have a few drinks on a friday and saturday night at home and that would be it. The last five years, particularly the last 3 years, i've been drinking one bottle of wine every night.
I have had occasions where ive stopped for 2 weeks, even able to cut down so i could train for a marathon and didnt drink for a month leading up to and after that. but i always start again.
I havent had a night off from it for about 8 months now.
Im tired, bloated, and getting a dull achy pain on my right hand side.
But im scared to stop, because its become such a habit and know i always go back.

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Meggymoo777 · 23/10/2019 13:00

Wow, what a fantastic update, fair play to you OP 🙌🏻 I hope you are feeling as proud of yourself as you should do! Making such wonderful changes to your morning routine is no easy feat. You've got this girl, you're kicking ass and taking names, keep it going!!! 💪🏻

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jess3817 · 23/10/2019 16:48

Ah thankyou.😊
Have to say it's not easy. Most days between 4 and 730 I'm talking myself out of going to the shop to get some. Once I get to 8,I'm ok and can get through it.
Also got a family get together this weekend and my 40th at begining of December , wich will be events ill have to try and get though, but seeing as 'it's friday' use to be a reason to drink, amd I can get through that at the mo, hopefully I can get through those too.

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iamyourequal · 23/10/2019 20:11

Well done jess sounds like you are doing great. I’m very impressed with the running. I have just cancelled my gym membership as I hated going so much it was one of my weak points- stopping for beers on way home afterwards. I am going to tackle the alcohol then move onto the exercise.

StandUpStraight · 23/10/2019 21:03

OP if it helps, I rather wish I’d been AF at my 40th. There are bits I don’t remember that well, and I so wish I did because it was really fun being with all my friends. Also, I wish I’d had a couple of extra years of treating my body really nicely, purely for reasons of vanity! Wine was really starting to age me, and I wasn’t drinking every day (though above guidelines).

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jess3817 · 24/10/2019 09:03

I use to go swimming, swim 80 lengths then buy wine on the way home🙈 I've been running on and off for 7 years and have a love hate thing going on with it, it is helping in the evenings knowing I have that to get up for- usually I go late afternoon when I've finished work, or am feeling more human 😳 so it's quite nice getting the run done for the day too.

I don't feel so bad about my appearance as I was. Still not looking great as definitely let myself go. Still bit bloated and got bags under my eyes but they're not the suitcases they were. Have lost a bit of bloat around my tum wich is nice.
You've thrown a different light on my 40th - thankyou, again 😀 I'm not sure a party has been arranged or anything but alcohol would usually always be involved so, hopefully I'll get through it.

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StandUpStraight · 06/11/2019 21:33

How are you doing, Jess? I realised I’m a couple of days away from 300 days AF, and wondered how you’re getting on.

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jess3817 · 09/11/2019 16:47

Wow 300?! That's amazing,well done you! Still hanging on in there had a few wobbles but still off the booze !

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StandUpStraight · 09/11/2019 17:46

That’s great! I hope you’re starting to feel some of the benefits, and that you’re really proud of yourself. 🙂

Meggymoo777 · 09/11/2019 19:59

So happy to see ye are both doing well! I've had a couple of wobbles recently too. Drank 2 bottles of wine in one night on my own recently for very negative reasons and the next day only served to teach me how much happier I am when I don't drink and what a waste of my time, money, life and body the booze is. Trying not to beat myself up about it, that sort of mental punishment serves no purpose so just trying to use that wobble as a learning curve ☹️

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jess3817 · 10/11/2019 08:45

Thankyou 😊
Don't beat yourself up meggymoo (easier said than done, I know) try and draw a line under it and move on. If you have another wobble, try and remember how crap you felt the next day after drinking and use it to motivate you self not to drink.

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jess3817 · 12/12/2019 10:41

Hi
It's been a while since I posted. Hope you're all doing well?
Had a couple of wobbles but am still off the wine 💪 unbelievable really😂 fully expected to fall of the wagin spectacularly over my birthday but, nope stayed strong.

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StandUpStraight · 12/12/2019 11:14

Well done you! And how are you feeling? I am facing my first AF Christmas (other than the one I was pregnant for) and it’s fine. We also got some very bad family news recently, which would once have driven me to wine, but I find I’m much better able to help my kids and my husband, and retain my own sanity, with a clear head and more energy. I hope you’re experiencing similar benefits and Christmas is not feeling too daunting!

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jess3817 · 12/12/2019 15:27

Than you! Yes feeling great! Like you say, able to deal with things much better with a clear head. Sorry you've had bad news, hope things work out if they're able too. Feel ok about christmas actually, now it's been a little while.

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StandUpStraight · 12/12/2019 20:24

That’s so great. I’m really pleased for you. I’m actually looking forward to coming out the other side of Christmas being one of the few people in the country not feeling like I need a holiday from daily booze and poor sleep. Although I still expect to eat quantities of bad food. 🙂

StandUpStraight · 12/12/2019 20:27

I am wondering how meggymoo is doing. This time of year can be tough for many reasons. General election does not help!

MissLadyM · 15/12/2019 15:05

My love affair with booze is coming to an end. I'm bloody sick of it. I'm drinking so much, I'm too embarrassed to say how much. When I drink I want to smoke and eat too much. It's exhausting. The drink culture is so huge though, I can't imagine getting free of it.

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jess3817 · 15/12/2019 19:52

Standupstraight - I wondered that also?

MissLadyM - I thought the same, use to eat loads, well more than I do now. Just take it one day at a time.

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StandUpStraight · 15/12/2019 20:49

MissLadyM sounds like the booze is giving you up. As jess says, take it one day at a time. I’m at 11 months AF and genuinely never felt better. Don’t miss it at all. It feels impossible to give it up and it starts out being difficult, then for me at least, it got easy. So much easier than moderating and negotiating with myself all the time.

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jess3817 · 30/12/2019 11:36

Hiya - hope you all had a good christmas?
I got through it without drinking! I feel like I can do it now I've got through it😂 I did have 2 people buy me 1 bottle each of vegan baileys (no one apart from my husband knows how I used to drink) I had them in the house for 3 days and managed to regift them lol. So pleased I didn't cave in and drink them

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user1497997754 · 30/12/2019 20:15

What really helped me was joining some Facebook groups....Club Soda, Sobriety Movement there are quite a few it made me accountable and have made some good friends that feel similar and 1 am 14 months sober now

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