Worried about DH drinking

[bigburdd]

So been married 8 years and DH always liked a drink but it has got to a point now where he drinks to excess 3 or 4 times a week at home. I'm talking 10 pints and staggering around, forgetting what he says and generally being a bit of a twat.
It stresses me out every day as I'm waiting for him to announce he is off to get beer as I know that once he has opened that first beer that's it for the night. He will be up and down smoking and drinking and then incoherent by bed time.
He admits every so often that he has a problem, even going as far as joining one year no beer, longest time with no beer has been 5 days so far.
He is a lovely man and not mean when he is drunk but it's really affecting our relationship, to the point I've told him I can't live like this for the rest of our lives.
I don't drink at all so I wonder if I am being unfair? I am too emotionally involved so maybe I am too anti drinking? He seems to think it's perfectly normal to get that drunk that often.
What can I do? Any advice please?
Thank you if you got this far!

Hiya @bigburdd
My husband of 7 years has a similar issue with alcoholism - he will drink between 30-40 units nightly - fortunately he just tends to “veg out” on the sofa and sleep until noon the next day
It has caused a lot of friction between us in the past, caused me a lot of anxiety and worry, led me to leave him about 2 years ago because I couldn’t take any more cleaning up after he had wet himself and the bed during the night
I then started going to al-anon meetings which have helped me to take back control of my choices and responsibilities
I have learnt that I didn’t cause him to drink, I can’t control it and I can’t cure it
He is highly functioning currently in that he has a job, house, relationship although I don’t know how long it will remain this way but I take one day at a time
Sometimes it is difficult to express how their drinking makes us feel without bringing emotions into the conversation (which would usually escalate into arguments) but I am learning to detach emotionally and be able to express my feelings about his drinking without accusatory or defamatory remarks (as these usually add to the guilt he already feels)
I hope you find your way, just know you are not alone on your journey x

Thank you for replying. I've told him I want to go to AlAnon family meetings and he is not happy! Tough his drinking bothers me and I need to talk to someone!

You will find help and support and al Anon op.