Has anyone been to an AA meeting as a friend / family member? There are no Al-Anon meetings within a hundred miles of here, but there is an AA one which is open at request. I'm tempted to go but the thought that I'd basically be gatecrashing a normal meeting, plus there would probably be people there who I know (smallish community) and thus know DP makes me really nervous.
But I need to do something. He was going to give up when I fell pregnant, and I really believed he would. But something seems to have happened and he's now drinking more heavily than he has for a while. He did something awful to me a couple of months back and I thought he'd be shamed into stopping, but he didn't remember anything about it in the morning and I don't think he fully believes me so that's no incentive. I'm not in danger but my tolerance for him being drunk is decreasing, and I'm concerned about bringing a baby into this situation.
I asked him this morning when he was giving up the drink and he replied 'When I choose' which I fear means never. I'd love to speak to others about it but am scared. Does anyone have any experience?