I've reached the end of the road

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Married to an alcoholic for 11 years. I did t drink at all when I met him . Had no idea . He seemed to like a drink.. 🙄.. but didn't realise how much.
4 half hearted attempts at rehab. 8 kids. One from first marriage. (36) hasn't seen him since aged 15 / I've never met him.
4 with second wife.
3 dsc of mine.
All late teenage +
I'm done. I can't 'love him out of it' it has to be his choice. So hard.
Earns lots of money when he works but it all goes on booze.
He got a shot divorce settlement. (40k vs £270k) rightly so. Has never paid maintenance.
Earns £500 a DAY !! but we live in rented and have nothing because I pay the bills.. he drinks the rest.
Have been offered a lovely home I can afford on my own.
I'm leaving. But know he will sink.

His kids want to keep seeing me but not him until he's sober.. (it'll never happen)
Tell me I'm doing the right thing.

You are doing exactly the right thing. You are not responsible for him. You tried and now need to look after yourself.

OP, you are not responsible for his recovery, it has to come from him entirely.

You are doing the right thing. If you stay, he will drag you and your children down with him.

Stay strong.

You're doing the right thing OP. You have a right to be happy and he has to realise how much his alcoholism has broken you and your marriage. Get out now and have a chance at being happy. Take that chance at freedom in a lovely little home of your own.

I wish you strength. You've made a decision I'm not yet brave enough to make for myself. But I'm at the last straw stage. Sister says I have to support and encourage, but while he won't talk about it, or admit he's got a problem, I just hear empty words and more broken promises. Good luck to you, be happy.