Is this really serious ?

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Just looking for some advice. My BIL spends a lot of time abroad, his drinking has increased with time as he spends a lot of time in bars.
He seems to have been getting very confused and forgetful over the last six months.
He’s currently in South East Asia and seems to be in a real state, he’s been ill, has fallen over and can’t seem to function enough to sort out simple problems.
He repeats himself in messages and seems to have forgot things discussed yesterday.
It’s like he’s got dementia.
He keeps saying it’s not to do with his drinking.
Obviously he’s really vulnerable and we are trying to get him to come back to the uk but it’s like he forgets that’s what he’s meant to do and so he’s just stuck.
I think it’s all due to his alcohol, but don’t really know what to do.
Any advice would be useful.

Can someone physically go and get him? Expensive option ofc.

But it might not be the alcohol. Something might be really wrong.
I think he needs assessing by a doctor and someone going to get him. Can you arrange a call out from a doctor?

He's really vulnerable, he forgets what to do and is 'stuck' abroad.

Somebody needs to go to him. Not sure what else to advise, he needs help.

He could be developing alcohol induced dementia, or he could be seriously ill.
Someone needs to go and get him.

We are considering it, problem is it will be me and DH who will have to look after him, no other family member has room.
My DS is just coming up to A levels, so I’m not really wanting the chaos that comes with it.
On the other hand we are worried he’s going to come to a bad end if left where he is !

And I don't mean alcohol induced dementia isn't serious!!!!!

We are considering it, problem is it will be me and DH who will have to look after him, no other family member has room.

Nobody is saying he has to live with you. Those arrangements will come long after you get him home and medically assessed.

My DS is just coming up to A levels, so I’m not really wanting the chaos that comes with it

I’ve been telling him to get a ticket back to uk for the last week, but he just isn’t doing it. I know he had enough money.
I think he’s reluctant to let us all see him in this state.
I think you are all correct someone is going to have to go and get him.

He will have to live with us, but I’d rather that than have him die abroad.
I couldn’t live with that.

Thank you all for your advice.

My friends brother died in SE Asia. He was in his 30s and in a bad way not coping. Drugs and drink. He can't get himself out of this by the sounds of it. Go and help him and then he can get proper help when he gets back.

Could you buy him a ticket and send instructions? Or is he beyond that? Would the British embassy help? I have no idea if their remit includes vulnerable adults but might be worth enquiring? Maybe they could help him buy a ticket and attend the airport at least? If he gets to the airport there may be a scheme for vulnerable passengers like the sunflower lanyard scheme here, that shows the person needs more support?

Would the British embassy help?
I could be wrong but probably not a lot, if anything at all.
I lived abroad and was stuck there in a controlled and abusive relationship. I practically begged them for help, in the country I was in and got told - it's not what they do