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Alcoholic husband

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knackeredandneedwine · 05/12/2018 15:32

I found out 3 weeks ago that my husband is an alcoholic. It all started about 3 years ago and apart from a couple of incidents that he’d explained away over the years I had absolutely no clue. I feel so stupid now as looking back there was some really obvious signs. Things like him being much more drunk than you'd expect for what he’d drank but he used to laugh about not being able to handle his drink anymore since we had children and stopped going out as much.

He has also admitted that he’s been using credit cards that I knew nothing about to pay for his drinking. We were already struggling with money and now I don’t know how we’re going to sort this.

I’m so proud of him and he’s not had a drink since the day he told me (which I believe) and has been going to AA. He’s also been to the gp who did bloods and has called him back in because of the results. I’m terrified about what he’s going to say.

I’m not sure why I’m writing as I don’t have a question but think I just needed to get it out as I’ve not spoken to any friends/family about it yet. I just feel like the great family I thought we had had been ruined and I’m so scared about the future. This sounds ridiculous but I’m even angry that he’s managed to not drink for 3 weeks because why didn’t he do it earlier then before he ruined things. He’s really down about everything and I’m really trying to support him but I feel so angry with him at the same time.

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knackeredandneedwine · 05/12/2018 15:33

Just noticed my rather unfortunate user name!

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CarolSpatula · 05/12/2018 23:36

I think your feelings are completely valid and it must be such a shock and a lot to take in. I have heard that Al Anon is really helpful for people affected by a partner or family member’s alcoholism. Would it be possible for you to attend a meeting?

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