I need help

[AllenBolts]

I've known I am an alcoholic for a while now but I always have an excuse for myself. I.e. bad day, it's the weekend, celebrating etc.

DH is just as bad. I love him so much but we both love a drink so it's something we need to stop together.

Has anyone got any advice? I know we need to stop but it's easier said than done.

I'm hoping for stories from people who have come out the other side and to hear what helped, what to avoid etc.

Thank you for reading x

No advice but well done for facing up to it.

Can you contact your local AA?

@BifsWif thank you for replying. I'm honestly just so embarrassed about doing anything like that. I'm currently having counselling about other issues and am even too embarrassed to tell my therapist. I try every time but it never comes out. Thank you, I know I need to follow your advice

Could you write it down and give the note to your therapist?

You’ll be surprised at the amount of support you will get if you can open up. I really do wish you the best of luck

Try reading This Naked Mind by Annie Grace

Good luck

@BifsWif well this is the first time I've opened up and even your replies have been really reassuring so thank you. Yes I think I'll write it down, or even show her my post on here. Thank you so much

@Forforkssake1 thank you, will look it up now

There are some good threads on here. There is an addiction support board, Brave Babes thread and Penguins.

Well done for opening up. Do you and your DH discuss it at all, or is it unsaid?

You can do it on your own, you know. It will be hard but you can do it.

@PersonaNonGarter thank you for replying. We always say we need to cut down, but it's quite blasé and we never actually cut down. I think we both know how bad it is but hide it from each other as we don't want to face up to it. Maybe I'll show him this thread. Thank you again

Sorry to hear this Allen. Wondering if I'm the same...do you have nights off of drink every day and a great deal?

@Pooshy I'm ashamed to say I probably have 1 night off the booze a week. I drink a disgusting amount at the weekends even if I'm just sat on my own in front of the TV. Sorry to hear you might be in the same position

I'd love to cut down, I don't drink that much but prob 3 x the recommended (which is a lot actually!) and because I don't feel too bad, I don't seem to have the motivation to cut down. I have two nights off a week but then drink the other five and often start slowly at pub lunch on the weekend

Anyway sorry OP, this thread isn't about but I'm sure a lot of people will identity with it

@Pooshy don't apologise, as sorry as I am that you're struggling, it's nice to know I'm not alone. Look after yourself and thank you for replying

I think I have a problem but no idea how to stop. Sorry for posting late when I’ve clearly been drinking and I can’t promise to return but I think I really need some help.

Oh goodness. So sorry I’ve posted on existing thread rather than my own. Just goes to show. I’m so very sorry x