DH and I drunk too much and it had started to affect us as both a couple and a family. I know that alcohol affects me (and I'm nowhere near as amusing as I think I am at the time) but DH has recently become very hard to live with due to his mood swings and temper outbursts.
We've had numerous talks and nothings come of it, then recently a crisis talk where I realised I preferred the idea of living apart to living together. He had the choice and chose to cut down, he now drinks Friday, Saturday and Sunday, and normally only two or three pints unless I'm on lates
I stopped drinking at the beginning of September as I felt I needed a clear head to deal with our issues, and I'd also felt a break was a long time coming. I've drink moderately on a couple of occasions since but that's it.
If I'm honest I'm thrilled with how easy I've found it (I was worried I would find myself with a proper addiction problem) and I'm generally happy with my new calmer, more productive life. I do however miss drinking terribly
I know I won't go back to my previous levels as that would probably be the end of my marriage, but I'm sad at the idea of being a non drinker (I don't have much self control once I've started) I was recently looking at booking a holiday cottage for a weekend and the reality hit me that there would be no more long walks with the dogs, finished off with a couple of pints in a little country pub. Christmas will be very different. Parties etc where I'm not driving will be very different.
Every morning I wake up sober I know I've made the right decision, but that decision is still really hard. I really want to get to a stage where it's not a decision but an automatic choice, rather than me dithering in the pub looking longingly at the beer pumps before opting for a soft drink.
I suppose it's still early days but I would really appreciate people regaling me with stories of how amazing their alcohol free life is!
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I've given up drinking but I LIKE drinking- does it ever get easier?
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Largepiecesofcrookedwood · 15/11/2018 08:40
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