Dh pressurising me to drink less

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He’s doing stop-tober and wants me to join him.
I think it’s his way of getting me to stop drinking.
Most nights I drink 4 beers I know it’s not good for me but I enjoy it and don’t think I’m ready to stop altogether.
I feel annoyed by his nagging tbh

op, sorry but you have got a problem, your DP has asked your to do it with him and your trying to justify reasons not too, it could really benefit with you health wise.

I have a drink problem and HAD a drink problem, I rarey drank in the week but soon as friday then that was it, I'd come home 6pm on a friday and pour a gin or vodka, i'd drink sat and sunday.

last christmas i drank and partied for 11days and come boxing day my eyes were a slight yellow tinge with a billirubin level of 92 as my gilberts syndrome peaked. it catches up with you. No days or breaks in between is a massive danger.

ended up doing dry Jan and drank only on saturdays. I've not not drank since July and I feel so so so much better, i've lost 3st and my weekends are a proper rest.

Please realise that it sounds like only 4beers but your body has to break that down, the calories are empty and pointless, theres no health benefit what so ever xx

Could you cut a couple days out? Say Wednesday and Thursday? I have now stopped drinking in the week altogether and am amazed at how much easier it is to keep weight off and how much better I actually feel.

This all sounds good OP! Remember every day without is a success.

He’s probably just concerned, and I say this as someone with a drinking problem I’m trying to address myself, you do sound like you’re drinking too much and have a problem. I know how hard it is to face up to this though, and you need to do it yourself rather than be pressured by others.

If you like reading there are definitely good books which might help you change your relationship with alcohol.

think I’ve got into a bad habit over the last year instead of having 1/2 beers 3-4 days per week it’s slowing increased.
I think if I could cut down to drinking only 3 nights a week again that would be fine.

Your “bad habit” is that you’ve become addicted and have increased your tolerance to an addictive substance. There’s no shame in that, it happens to a lot of us.

As for the kids, you might not drink in front of them, but they’ll still know.

There’s help out there - by posting I think you know you need to find and take it. Please do x

Bottom line is if you want to lose the weight, the beer has to go. In addition, often when we drink we make poor food choices.

Think of it this way, if you keep going will you be happy to be a size 18, or a 20? When will you feel enough is enough?

If weight loss is your motivator, then start focusing on that.

And then maybe buy youtself a treat with the money saved. A new top, new jeans, to go with your weight loss.

There’s increasing evidence that the most important thing is to have 2-3 alcohol free nights every week. This is what my hepatology colleagues would tell you. The amount you’re drinking currently is certainly high enough to cause liver damage as you don’t ever give it a chance to recover.

I could definitely do at least 3 nights per week alcohol free I’m happy to limit drinking to just Friday and Saturdays I would not want to ever stop altogether I like drinking. In the same way I like eating pizza and chocolate but like those things I do need to limit them and I realise now that if I’m drinking beer most nights it’s not a ‘treat’any More is it.

8 units a night is not alcoholic territory but it is probably indicative of an alcohol dependence. I can easily slip into drinking every night so I'm not judging at all. I aim for 1 off 1 on and sometimes go 2 or 3 days if life is good that week. I find cbd oil drops take the edge off when I get the urge. Quite pricey but def less than the cost of a 4 pack everyday. Good luck.

Eight units a night isn't alcholic territory? It's fifty six units a week and that's assuming the op doesn't drink more at the weekend.

It's absolutely alcoholic territory.

Op, what concerns me about your posts is you seem to be agreeing to cut back, but dont actually really wish to. I think that's a teller.

Pizza and chocolate aren’t addictive substances. Unless you tackle this you’re going to end up drinking more, not less.

Good luck - I know exactly what it’s like to have a problem with drink and what it can take from you, little by little.

So do Stoptober like that then - drinking Fridays and Saturdays only. Your husband will be happier and you will see whether or not you have been drinking too much (spoiler - you have 😀)

😂think I will George hoping it will help shift the lbs while I save some ££££

Shocked at how many people think 4 beers a night can’t kill you. Yes it can

4 beers a night will damage the liver more and more overtime.

I work in nursing and spend a lot of time working with alcoholics. It’s not always the amount you’re drinking but how often you drink it. 4 beers in one night isn’t that much if you’re doing it twice a month, however 4 beers a night several days a week is a hell of a lot.

You have an alcohol problem, sorry.
You might not feel like you act any different but I’m telling you now it will be doing damage.