Hi all. So I am due to be a bridesmaid in august for my cousin. We are more like brother and sister and have always been very close. His mum (my dads sister) has always been like a mum to me as i have no relationship with my real mum. My dad is also an alcoholic. I am 38 and throughout my whole life have struggled with the chaos and heartbreak that this comes with. Basically the bride is struggling with drinking. I've known for a while she was drinking a lot but everyone seem to just pass it off as her enjoying a wine. Lately she has been drinking so much to the point of passing out on a nightly basis. They have two small children. My cousin has hidden a lot of this and i honestly think he's scared, probably in denial and has no idea what to do. Came to a head when i went round last week at 2pm and she was blind drunk and attempted to drive to the school to pick up the kids. I was in shock. my partner was there and he picked up kids. Her hen night was saturday and she went away with a random guy disappeared for about half an hour and then i found her passed out in toilets and took her home. I attend al anon and have done for a few months and feel this has helped with my dad. I am not in a position to take this on. That may sound selfish but its too close to home and its breaking my heart to see it. I have a small baby and suffer with anxiety and pnd and this has just triggered all sorts of things. I know my family are in denial and i understand but i have no idea how they can just ignore it. her wedding is in 7 weeks. I dnot want to go, i dont want to see her because its heart wrenching. Any advice would be much appreciated. please dont think i dont care and try and understand the reasons. I know that no one can force someone to stop which is the reason i after so long have very little contact with my dad i just want to help