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Alcohol support
Help - alcoholic parent
istilllovefriends · 15/05/2018 15:44
My dad is 72 and is suffering from alcoholic dementia - he has been in and out of rehab but starts drinking again straight away. My mum is trying to help him but is always angry and now out of the country for 3 weeks. She also works away during the week in London. He is confused, smelly, dirty and keeps being found by the police having fallen over. He has seen the best medical professionals and had all the treatment - but nothing sticks. I am coming to the point of getting into his house and checking he is alive and leaving him. I don't know what else I can do. My relationship with my husband is struggling as I work full time and have a 15 year old daughter who also needs me! He was not the most supportive parent and suffered from mh issues all of his life. I feel so guilty. What else can I do?
BeautyGoesToBenidorm · 01/06/2018 10:17
Sorry to hear this. There isn't a great deal more you CAN do, unfortunately - it looks like he has no intention of quitting the booze.
It's very, very hard. You need to start putting you and your family first now. Have you contacted AlAnon? The meetings could well be a great support for you 
iamyourequal · 02/06/2018 00:15
I’m sorry I don’t have any great words of wisdom but hope others will be along soon with practical advice for you. My DF has a drink problem but it is thankfully contained to his own house and evening drinking. I think Beauty is correct saying you need to focus on your own family now.
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