My ex is behind bars for five months and so is thankfully off the booze. (Let's hope he stays off the Black Mamba!)
He's quit before for three years as he almost died - wasn't meant to see the day out. He's also been locked up before. And he's lost three children from two relationships.
I don't know what his rock bottom is.
He's written to me today saying he knows he has to give up. (He's admitted for years and years he has a problem and he's well aware he does need to give up but finds it hard).
I was browsing on here the other day and heard about this book by Jason Vale which a lot of people on here - and Amazon - seem to swear by. I ordered it for him.
Any more advice from someone who is successfully living their life as a dry alcoholic? I said I'll support him by going to every AA meeting he wants to go to, that he'll always have my shoulder, that he should set himself goals based on his ambitions for when he comes out. He's so bright and intelligent - it's such a waste.
I'm also going to go to Al Anon as I know I've enabled him in the past but no more after such a long spate away from the stuff.
I spoke to AA the other night and while the lady was helpful saying the best thing her family did for her was to walk away, with him he's been street homeless, with not a person in the world to turn to. The government today seems to me to want to keep people like him down. I've made all these phone calls for him to help him back on his feet (which I do know is enabling) but it seems there is no joined up approach. Or am I looking in all the wrong places. Any advice appreciated as he's such a bright, intelligent guy and way too young to die. I haven't been so spurred on to do so much until today when he wrote in black and white he knows he has to give up.