I don't really know why I'm asking because I think I know the answer but dp is young, late twenties, good job, well paid and so on. He drinks 8 or 9 cans of beer a night, most nights, in fact almost every night. More on weekends as it's 'the weekend'. He goes to bed at a normal time and wakes up for work every day no problem but I know this is too much. Not to mention what if he got breathalysed on the drive to work, would he still be over the limit?
I don't drink but have challenged him about his drinking in the past, when he goes to the GP he never tells them how much he actually drinks. I said this is a sign he knows it's wrong. He says he knows he probably drinks a bit much but never drinks in the morning so isn't an alcoholic (?!). On a weekend he will start drinking around 2pm.
I don't know what to do. I have been too passive and now feel like if I start having a go at him he will feel suddenly threatened and pull away. He is a good person and never angry or anything due to drinking. More the fact that he gets morose and once he's had a few then all proper conversation goes out of the window. He seems a bit down but we've had a tough time of it lately, I just feel lonely once he starts drinking. Sorry this was rambly it's the first time I've really said it 'out loud'.