could i adopt?

[mehdismummy]

i seperated from ds dad nearlt two years ago and i would like to adopt, i live in a 2 bedroom flat and am currently on a very low income, could i adopt?

I think you need to talk to your local Social Services adoption department to find out the criteria.

Presumably you realise you won't get a baby and that most children available for adoption have major problems?

yes i realise that i havent just got the thought into my head! I want to be able to give a child love is that wrong?

mehdismummy - Social Services take many things into consideration, being single is fine and as for the income it is more a case of can you afford to live and are your finances in order? Its things like arrears and credit problems they don't like, they're not concerned with if you are rich.

Mumblechum is right that it will be highly unlikely you will get a baby but I disagree that "most children available for adoption have major problems" that is simply not the case and its comments like that that contribute to the reason a lot of children are in care who simply want a family and to be loved and cared for.

Good Luck!

some ss insist on a separate room for each child particularly if the child is older. Yo uare unlikely to be able to adopt a child older than 2/3 years younger than your DS and from memory your DS is still fairly young so you probably will need to wait a while. But no harm going to the adoption team and asking them the question now.

thanks guys and to kew thanks for remembering he is 4 so i dunno if that will work. I would love another dc for him to grow uo with, i feel guilty that he is on his own and thats my fault

no it isn't your fault - its life. Many people (including me) have one DC when they want more - its not about fault it's just the ay it worked out.

My social worker had some very good qadvice on it (she had an only child too) she said you should incorporate people into you family events and develop traditions that include other childrne that he likes and try to make it a new "tradition". It will provide him with "pseudo-siblings". Or just let him make his own riends and be one of those parents that always has other childrne in the house!