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Any adopters who live in council housing?

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Bananaketchup · 18/01/2010 17:23

I'm a prospective single adopter, and have a one-bed council flat. The VA I want to go with are very wary of assessing me while this is the case. Meanwhile the council have given me conflicting advice, I was told once that they won't reassess my housing need until I have a child placed (which the VA have told will never happen as they won't take me on in this case), and another time that they would treat me the same as a pregnant person if I am in the assessment process. I've got a meeting with the council this week to discuss, I was just hoping maybe there is someone here who has managed the same situation? TIA

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badgerhead · 07/08/2010 20:13

Congratulations to you, you deserve a very big pat on the back

MissBonpoint · 07/08/2010 20:19

Good for you!

Kewcumber · 08/08/2010 22:01

well done, and good luck.

thefirstmrsDeVere · 08/08/2010 22:11

How wonderful

KristinaM · 09/08/2010 14:40

Excellent news!

I wonder if you would consider writing to Adoption uk about this and copying the letter from the Council? They are an organisation for parents before, during and after adoption. If you are not a member already you definitely should join.

They might want to feature this in their newsletter as it would help other prospective adopters in your situation. Other housing agencies are more likely to change their policy too if they realise there is a precedent elsewhere

Well done

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Bananaketchup · 09/08/2010 18:14

Thank you all for your good wishes. I never allowed myself to think it wasn't going to work out and I was ready for as much of a fight as needed, but I was secretly worried and it's a real relief.

Kristina I am a member of AUK, I'll post on the boards so if other prospectives in the same situation come along in the future they can find it if they do a search.

This is what I look like now -

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jetcat · 09/08/2010 18:35

well done banana - i was following your fight, you should be very proud of yourself

Kewcumber · 11/08/2010 12:54

I should add that this is just the kind of determination you need to get through the adoption process so you are already ahead of the pack!!

roadkillbunny · 06/09/2010 00:15

Well done, the determination you have shown in this would make you a wonderful adoptive or foster mother, you won't give up when it gets hard, not only have you helped yourself but many, many other potential adopters and children will benefit from your hard work and dedication.
I admire you greatly I really really do and I wish you the best in the next step of the process

Ambers1988 · 07/07/2015 10:20

Hi Bananaketchup,

I know this is an old post but I just wondered what the outcome was, and if you've now adopted? I ask because I came across your thread when researching the Internet because I am in a similar situation to yours (when this post was written) and I would love some help and advice please.... I would be very grateful of any useful information you are able to share please ????

P.s. My husband and I have 2 children of our own (boy 9 years + girl 6 years) and we are in a 2 bedroom council flat. We really want to foster but Essex County Council will not process our application any further as we do not currently have a spare bedroom (and there is not a need for foster carers for babies in our area), but the council will not consider rehousing us until the foster people say they intend to place a child with us.... which obviously they won't even consider without a spare bedroom! Such a chicken and egg situation and I don't know where to go from here ????

Hels20 · 07/07/2015 17:28

I am sure BananaK will be along soon but she did adopt.

poetboywonder · 07/07/2015 18:56

I know nothing on this subject but surely LA are part of the council, they should work together and your support worker should help you secure a home that would be suitable assuming all other aspects of your adoption goes well. It really frustrates me that paperwork and bureaucracy get int he way of everything.

Good luck is all I can say.

Ambers1988 · 08/07/2015 10:29

Oh that's great news.... thank you Hels20

And yes you would think so wouldn't you Poetboywonder but it doesn't work like that unfortunately, as different departments don't seem to communicate. Plus one is a district council whilst the other is the county council... they couldn't possibly work together to achieve the best possible outcome lol! But thank you for your well wishes

Tahnia · 18/03/2022 13:48

I know this post was some time ago. Me and my husband have adopted a little girl 2 years ago. Me and my husband would like a sibling for our little girl. But we are currently living in a 1 bedroom council flat. I have been on the transfer list for 2 years and no sign of getting a bigger property. I’m wondering if anyone else has had the same problem. The council have said until we adopt our second child that’s when I will be classed as overcrowded, social services won’t let us adopt until we have a bigger property.

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