Need advice before i go insane.

[TheLadyEvenstar]

DS1 wants dp to adopt him so much so that he has asked his biological fathers permission.

I hve just got a text from ex-p saying we need to get it sorted asap as he doesn't see why he should be paying for a child who does not want him in his life.....ex-p chose not to see ds1 for over 3 yrs. very long and complicated.

So what do i need to do?

speak to a family law solictor.

You need to make an application to the family court. Has your ex got pr for your son?

I think the easiest way to do it is to use a solicitor tbh. It will cost a bit but the process can get a bit complicated.

Your ex will have to write a statement saying that he gives his full permission for the adoption and that he understands the implications of this, ie he will have no further ties including the loss of pr. The judge can ask for social services to speak to all parties to confirm that everyone understands what is happening and that everyone is happy.
Your partner will be spoken to at length as will you and your son.

Adoption is a big thing and it does take a while even in a seemingly simple case.

Your other option is delegated parental resonsibility. Any parent or guardian with pr can delegate pr to another party as long as ALL parties with pr agree to this.
In other words, you could officially give your partner pr for your child, this would in effect make him a legal guardian of your child until your child reaches 18 or until you chose to withdraw it in writing.
It involves a very simple legal statement signed and witnessed by all parties in front of a solicitor and will cost about £100.
You would not need to attend court for this. Copies would then be sent to the school, gp etc to notify them of the change.

Hi ID

Ex has no PR he has sent me numerous texts saying he is happy for adoption to go ahead.

his latest text today says...

We need to sort out K being adopted delaying it is not doing me any good. You get it all drawn up and I will sign the sooner the better. Then I can stop paying for him.

He has been out of ds1 life since he was 22m old with the odd visit now and again.

hope you can get it sorted out in a way that suits you and your DS. i have to say that your ex sounds like a cold b**

Kristina thats one way to describe him!!