I have adopted a baby as a single parent. She is 7 now. I never felt that the time was right to break the adoption story. I looked after two elderly sick parents for 6 years together with my child. They both passed away in a short period of time Dd was very close to them, the only loving grandparents she knew. I felt it was too cruel to speak about adoption while grieving and postponned. She think I am her birth mother and I am still not mentally strong to tell her the truth. She has been asking about her father. What I told her was, that I was not married, but wanted to have a child very much, so have asked the doctors to help.That is why we do not know who was the man that has helped. I adopted her from a country that have strict confidentiallity law, so B.mother's identity is not being disclosed, father unknown.
She is a happy child and we are both very very close together and loving. We could not love each other more even if we were related. I am so afraid that if I am not carefull with the adoption story, I might do more damage than good. Please give me advise.