Pregnancy

[loflo]

Just looking for some advice and needing a moan really . Our adopted DS's birth mum (BM) is expecting another baby in the summer. The new baby will be a full sibling to DS. At this point we don't know whether the baby will stay with BM (potentially might but just feel like for ds - it feels like a smack in the face for him. Look we treated you like s but look we'll just go and have another one who's life we can f up one way or another.

Has anyone been through the same? Any suggestions on dealing with this?

Our beautiful adopted DS has a sibling (older) that BM kept. I am reckoning there will be all kinds of questions when our guy gets older, you know like "why didn't BM keep me"

I don't know what the answers are. I am praying I will be inspired somehow when that day finally arrives

HTH

Thank you silverlady. Its just so hard isn't it. And you are right about the questions. And if the new baby stays with BM don't see why DS should have to worry about it being ok.........

THe BM of our three has had a further child and is pregnant again. The fourth child is in foster care and looking for a new family - not sure what will happen with the new one.

We have told our three in as neutral a way as possible and will let them work it out. They know she was unable to look after them and would love her to sort herself out even though thy know they will never go back to her.

MBop

Thanks for all taking the time to reply. Maryz I know what you mean about not wanting to know. I just can't bear the thought of DS having a little brother or sister living in what he had to for the first few months of his life. Will have to trust that the social workers will make the right choices. As for your DC's BM using the same name