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how bizarre would it be...

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FriarKewcumber · 17/02/2009 16:12

If I suggested a meet up?

I know we spread all over the place but I'd be happy to organise something either in London or somewhere like Oxford.

Just a thought, some of us have been chatting online for some time - wondered how you would all feel about pressing the flesh (as it were )

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hester · 17/02/2009 23:06

Nice idea, kewcumber

ellabella4ever · 17/02/2009 23:40

Could we bring the kids?

BTW, Kew, you're doing a sterling job on that other thread. Part of me thinks "why are we bothering?" but I know we can't let some of the views being expressed go unchallenged. We owe it to adoptive kids and their parents (i.e us!).

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FriarKewcumber · 17/02/2009 23:43

I'm assuming we would bring kids - mine doesn;t respond well to being locked in a cupboard at home all day...

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ellabella4ever · 18/02/2009 00:18

You mean you've tried it

bran · 18/02/2009 22:51

IME they don't mind being in the cupboard so long as there are sharp knives and matches to amuse themselves with.

I'd love to, but I remember when I first got DS the thought of travelling further than 20 mins from home filled me with dread and I may feel the same with the new DD. On the other hand she might be an easy traveller, I just won't know until she turns up.

Also, they say you should never meet your heroes. I don't think I could handle the disappointment if it turned out you are only funny, erudite and almost always correct on MN, but totally the opposite in rl.

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FriarKewcumber · 19/02/2009 10:04

OK then Brans volunteering to host at her hosue so she doesn;t have to travel

Never fear I am everybit as marvellous in RL as my online personna though my online slef is quite a bit thinner.

happy to host at mine if Kew is convenient for people - close ot M3 and M4 and on a tube line

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hester · 19/02/2009 21:11

Who's eligible? Can we come if we're still doing home study and have a birth child? [hester feels strangely like she is inviting herself to someone else's party.]

jofeb04 · 20/02/2009 20:20

lol

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FriarKewcumber · 20/02/2009 23:17

yes you can come hester but you can only sit on the very edge of the circle. Unless you have good social worker storeis to tell inwhich case you may take centre stage.

OK, enough at least to attempt a meeting.

First location - I am happy to organise one in London area, perhaps at one of the farms like Godstone or bocketts close to M25 alternatively a arrk in central london eg Hyde Park.

If not lOndon somewehremore central but easy to get to like Oxford.

Commetns...?

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maryz · 21/02/2009 01:01

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PheasantPlucker · 21/02/2009 09:27

I would love to. I haven't been on for a while - have been in Egypt (yay!!!) and then . Sorry, that is totally off the point, but I am so grateful to this man!! )my laptop broke down. Tis fixed now (by a lovely chap who is local, and whom I want to get all my local friends to use! He was SO brilliant)

I don't think I am too far away from Kew geographically.

Is this with children, or adults only?

PheasantPlucker · 21/02/2009 09:31

PS I don't have a car. So can only come to something near public transport/not a massive cab journey. But don't let me stop people doing a venue they like. (I just can't come to it, which is fine.)

My post above cut and pasted itself in a bizarre fashion - and now makes little sense! My apologies! (or maybe laptop isn't fixed at all!)

beemail · 21/02/2009 10:29

Time is biggest problem at present both during week and at weekends( working more hours as return visit to orphanage is planned for Easter) but will try to make it if at all poss. Lovely idea. Not sure my teens would join me though!

KristinaM · 21/02/2009 23:08

I would love to come but I'm a LONG way away. Could maybe get a cheap flight if it was in London? DH deserves a LONG day alone with the kids

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FriarKewcumber · 21/02/2009 23:42

OK lets plan for post Easter - if you come to me I am 5 mins from various forms of public transport (and relatively close to Heathrow!)

Maryz - don;t admire my certainty about our adoption, its just a chronological thing! DS although being vaguely aware of a brith mother is still a bit confused about her place in the world and so I havnt had to deal with any trying questions. Though he very firmly told me today that he grew in my tummy despite me correcting him, in the end I just said "its fine for you to pretend that"!

In any event adoption was my only chance for a family so I suppose thats where the "certainty" comes from - it was this way or no way and come what may DS was going to be adopted whether I was in the picture of not (or horrifyingly worse) live his days in state care so any issues he will have about his adoption were always going to exist. I'm sure that won't make it any easier to deal with if he has a major issue with it but as I said it was this way or the highway!

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bran · 22/02/2009 22:20

Post Easter would work for me, I think, although I'm not sure how well DD is going to settle so we might still be in family-bonding mode then. Mainline rail goes out your way from Waterloo doesn't it? I find that nobody ever wants to come and visit East London, and anyway I would have to tidy up before anyone came over.

KristinaM · 22/02/2009 22:27

yeah you would bran. coz i am actually a SW in disguise and would report you for being such a slattern

KristinaM · 22/02/2009 22:28

and if i am coming hundreds of miles you will bloody well turn up ok

bran · 22/02/2009 22:31
Grin
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FriarKewcumber · 22/02/2009 23:01

well if you're anyhere nar stratford then there's the north london overground which cmes all the way to Kew via Hampstead. Alternatively Waterloo to Richmond is about 20 mins if you get the fast train and Kew is one stop on underground from there.

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bran · 24/02/2009 20:09

I'm a reasonably short DLR trip from Stratford, but that train from Stratford to Richmond is quite a long, slow trip with lots of stops. Plus I remember we did a huge study at work for British Rail (just before it was broken up and sold off) and that was the only train line that the interviewers had to be sent in groups because it was so crime-ridden. It's probably improved a lot since then though. It's not for ages yet anyway so I'll investigate further.

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FriarKewcumber · 24/02/2009 21:30

Kew is also on the district line if thats any help to you. I use that north lOndon line quite a lot but no further than about Hamspstead ish and only in rush hour - never had a problem though I agree it does stop a lot.

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mummyBop · 25/02/2009 19:10

Would love to meet but I am also a very long way away so would need to fly and stay over. Not sure it will work.

Not been here for a while an lost the adoption boards initially. We're almost a year post placement and I can't believe how much things have moved on in that time. Thanks for all the wonderful support I got pre-placement and in those first few weeks and months.

MBop

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FriarKewcumber · 25/02/2009 21:08

have thigns settled down a bit now MBop?

Perhaps we should arrange a video link!!

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mummyBop · 26/02/2009 17:25

Things have settled down really well - the children are so much calmer and life is settling into a routine that seems to be working. We still have our ups and downs, but we're getting there.

I can't believe how hard the last year has been, and I would say don't to anyone thinking of adopting three, but at least we got through it and hopefully things will be easier going forward.

MBop

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