Book recommendations please

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angel1976 · 27/01/2009 18:27

Hi,

I've done a search and found several good recommendations but wondering if anyone has any others? Background is that my cousin and her husband adopted a little boy from birth and he is now almost 1 after years of childlessness and failed IVFs. They intend to disclose his background to his as early as possible so it's not a shock when he finally understands. They would love to have recommendations of books around the topic for really young ones and slightly older. They don't have much adoption resource where they come from so I intend to buy the books here for them. Also, anything for them to deal with the emotional impact of adopting? She mentioned that she is quite emotional given that her son is almost 1 and that he has given them so much joy. Many thanks!

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PuzzleRocks · 27/01/2009 19:56

Bumping for you.

blithedance · 27/01/2009 21:42

There is a real lack of books aimed at children actually - let me know anyone if you find one! (apart from Nutmeg Gets Adopted, I mean)

Quite a comprehensive one we were recommended on a course is called "20 things adopted kids wished their parents knew". It is good as it deals with some subtle issues like curiosity about the birth family and grieving for your "lost roots", not fitting in genetically to your adopted family, that kind of thing (I am going from memory here so hope I've got it right). These kind of things don't have anything to do with how well the child is settled or how good the parents are, they are just natural consequences of the adoptee's situation.

How do you mean, emotional? Happy? Sad? Angry? All of the above in the same twenty minutes ?

There are good internet resources too, there might be an equivalent of adoptionuk where they could join a forum (no earthly reason why they can't join AUK regardless to be honest) , which is pretty good for specific issues.

If they really don't have any resources, some book/literature about life story work would be good such as Making Sense of Adoption by Lois Ruskai Melina.

FairLadyRantALot · 27/01/2009 21:52

no idea if any of these are any good....but might be worth a look!

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angel1976 · 27/01/2009 21:58

Thanks for all your suggestions! I found a recommended list on the Family Futures website on this page that you can download:
www.familyfutures.co.uk/services/childrens/index.html

I sent that (and your recommendations) to my cousin so she can have a look. Thanks once again, very helpful!

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