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I NEVER thought anyone with half a brain would really think this but...

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Kewcumber · 10/10/2008 23:50

My mum had lunch today with an old friend who knows me quite well. For anyone who doesn't know DS was adopted at 11 months from a Ruusian speaking area of Kazakhstan.

He is nearly three now.

She asked after us both then said "how is Kewcumbers DS? Can he speak English?"

Not "can he talk yet" or "is his speech delayed" (I don't think such things occured to her) - she genuinely seemed to think that when he started talking he would speaking Russian! TWo years after he last heard any! Do people really think this - am I being naive at thinking its a ridiculous question?!

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handlemecarefully · 10/10/2008 23:52

It is a ridiculous question. Maaaaan! - that woman is thick!

hatrick · 10/10/2008 23:57

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Kewcumber · 10/10/2008 23:59

am glad its not just me then - my jaw dropped. Then thought maybe I'm too close to it and perhaps it was a reasonable thing to think!

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thumbwitch · 10/10/2008 23:59

oh Kewc, it never ceases to amaze me the depths of ignorance that some people can sink to! OTOH, she probably thought she was doing really well to remember that he wasn't an English boy to start with!

NappiesLaGore · 11/10/2008 00:04

no its a v thick question. utterly bizarre.
and i thought my brain was mush...

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Kewcumber · 11/10/2008 00:13

in fact she would probably have had a heart attack if she met him because he has a very cute BBC accent! Unless he's saying "Hebby Cobble"

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Kewcumber · 11/10/2008 00:13

(helicopter)

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thumbwitch · 11/10/2008 00:15

people do think strange things though - I remember being in a restaurant in France once and there was a mynah bird in a cage there who said "Bonjour!" and I remember thinking "Wow! How clever is that bird, it can speak French!!"

stepfordwife · 11/10/2008 00:21

bizarre indeed, kew.....
still suffering from insomnia then?
(you, that is, not the english-speaking ds)

Flibbertyjibbet · 11/10/2008 00:22

Its a ridiculous question but it just shows how ridiculous some people are!

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Kewcumber · 11/10/2008 00:24

god steppie - so tires I could drop but just can;t switch off!

We're milling around at home in teh morning to recharge if you want a coffee...

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stepfordwife · 11/10/2008 00:31

what a pain..
you're on!
will have ds1 with me if that's OK
am threatening to drag him into london shopping for lights
so a caffeine fix first would be fab (for me) and he'd love to see your ds
what time does kewcumber towers open for cawfeeeee?

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Kewcumber · 11/10/2008 00:33

any time you like if you're prepared for the mess! We're generally up and about by 8am. Would be nice to see DS1 on his own for a change.

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stepfordwife · 11/10/2008 00:39

the only mess i notice is a messy mind, so no need to fret (pet)
when you say it'll be nice to see ds1 by himself, you do realise he'll have his adult ligger in tow, too?

say about 9.45-10ish?

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Kewcumber · 11/10/2008 00:47

time fine but I guess you're insisting on coming too then?

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stepfordwife · 11/10/2008 00:49

'fraid so....

bran · 11/10/2008 14:51

That's so funny. Did she pull herself together and realise that it was a completely silly question and feel a bit of a fool? I'm sure I've had equally 'vacant' moments.

BecauseImAWitch · 11/10/2008 14:53

Well - we were talking about our recent holiday in Australia, which was in August, their winter, and we were asked "oh, so were you there for Christmas?" !!!

bran · 11/10/2008 15:04

Actually, I've had a surprising number of comments that make me LOL. For instance I was talking with my cousin about DS shooting up and telling DS that he would be tall when he's an adult, and my cousin said "well both you and DH are tall so he probably will be". I usually wait a beat or two and then say "You do remember he was adopted and there's no genetic link, don't you?" with a quizzical look.

BecauseImAWitch · 11/10/2008 15:10

(OMG I thought you were talking about your DS doing drugs! )

JJ · 11/10/2008 15:14

I've had a brain fart like that before*, though. She might not have been thinking and realised later what a ridiculous question it is.

*I asked my husband's twin sister when her birthday is.

bran · 11/10/2008 15:15

Now that you mention it I see that it is shockingly badly phrased. Obviously I meant shooting up like a bamboo/sunflower/other lovely thing that grows in spurts. Sorry. He's only 4, I'm hoping for a few more years before having to deal with any thorny drink/drug issues.

BecauseImAWitch · 11/10/2008 15:15

I hope so!

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Kewcumber · 11/10/2008 20:18

I think its always possible that it was just a vacant moment (and yes we've had all them) but hearing my mum - I really don't think so I think she was really thought he would start speaking Russian and would then later (at some future uinknown point ) start learning English. Maybe I should enrole him an "English as a foreign language" course

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bran · 11/10/2008 20:23

We should start a "stupid questions I have asked" thread. The first time I saw the traffic light sculpture by Canary Wharf I asked my brother how he know when it was his turn to go. He answered in a scathing tone "It's a sculpture on a roundabout, I go when there's a gap in the traffic".