I've decided, I am going to get in contact

[jofeb04]

After much thought, and having discussions on here and in RL with people who are either deciding to search or have done, I am going to try to get contact with my birth mother.

But.... I am scared, nervous and worried.

Such an emotional rollercoaster, and this is before I actually do anything!

I hope all goes smoothly for you and find what you are looking for.

Good luck

Bop

Good luck in your search.

Yes, best of luck.

remember that there are stages. The research, confirming that the person you think is your birth mother is the right one, and then making contact.

You can take it as slowly as you want....

Hope it goes well...

Oh, and you absolutely need someone who can support you through this.

Me too. Scary as fuck, isn't it?

How exciting - I've often thought about doing this but have been too scared of what the outcome would be?

I'd love to see exactly how I got to be who I am iyswim!

Do let us know how you get on.

hi all hope you dont mind me popping in. The best advice i can give is prepare for the worse hope for the best. When you find her, if you decide you will go looking you will be amazed at how much you have in common. I had the same mannerisms, habits all sorts and was adopted at 9 days old so couldnt have been learned, SCARY but the best feeling in the world Good luck.

Hi, just wanted to second what Glen32 has said - I could have written that exact post. Spooky!

Be prepared mentally. Hope to hear from you soon.

I should just add that my aunt was adopted and it wasn't true in her case that she had the same mannerisms etc as her birth mother. She did look like her but actually she has the same mannerisms, way of talking etc as my grandmother (her adoptive mother) so she "looks" like her too IYSWIM!

I think I have the address (2 mn-ers searched and got the same address).

She is married, but no children. Also think I have found her brothers on facebook, which also matches details on friends reunited.

I am so worried.

. Hope it goes well for you too.

hi! best of luck. I agree with ilovemydog - its so important to have someone to support you. I had a great friend who even acted as a go between.

Oh, and be prepared for HUGE phone bills, takes a long time to tell your birth mum your life story!