I am seeking advice for my sister who adopted two siblings 18 months ago, they are now 6 and 3, and I am very concerned about her and the possibility of adoption break down. The children have very challenging behaviour which is quite relentless. They were in foster care for a year and displayed no issues but things have been difficult for them from the start. She is well educated in therapeutic parenting, they have had a multidisciplinary report which has recommended theraplay for them as a family at a huge cost which they are awaiting approval for. She has weekly appointments with a psychologist to help them understand the childrens behaviour and their own feelings about it. It has got to the point she says she doesn't like the children, hates parenting and feels she has made a huge mistake. I desperately want to help but I don't know what to do or what other support she could reasonably expect.
I have two autistic children myself and do not live close but I give what practical help I can, she does get respite as both are in full time education and she works part time and she has a partner with flexible schedule.
Please could anyone offer any advice on what I could do or any hope on how things could get better?