Breaking point

[Littlebitoflove1234]

i have reached my breaking point. I don’t know how much more i can cope with being hit, and things thrown at me, and the screaming, literally right in my face, and the name calling, every day, every single day, 10-15 times a day. And it’s reached the point that I cry in front of her, and that’s doesn’t help

we are waiting for confirmation that funding has been secured for play therapy but im under no illusion it’s a quick fix.

and then my eldest, the glass child, copes and copes and then explodes to.

I’m really sorry OP, that sounds so tough.

I don’t know your story so I’m not sure how old your 2 are or how long they’ve been with you or what your support network looks like but my first suggestion would be to access some support for yourself if you can.
Tough days for me sometimes mean leaving LO with DH and going for a walk or a cold dip or putting headphones on and literally blasting my ears with music. If you can get a break at all, take it.

About your dc, do they go to school/nursery?

It all just sounds hard and as you know, there’s a community here for you to rant to or to hold your hand if you need it

They are both school age, the youngest started school in sept. We have worked very very hard with to get her ready/feeling safe in school, then there was an incident where school didn’t following the care plan and it’s set her back to behaviour that we haven’t seen since she first moved up. Plus side is school have a bit more understanding as to why the care plan is important and they are attempting to repair the rupture, but we are really feeling it at home.

the problem with a small break away is it’s like getting off a moving treadmill, and trying to get back on it again. She had a night at her grandparents the other week as she had been nagging for a sleepover, and those 24 hours without all of the behaviours, and having the lovely quiet, seems to have made it harder for me to cope with it all x

Hi, I've just read this, I followed the parenting advice of a child psychologist to the letter & it took time but behaviour is great & my expectations are much lower too which has helped me.

I’m so sorry it’s so hard. Know You’re not alone!

we were absolutely at breaking point a few months ago.

its Has got better for us (under no illusion it will always be!!)

DDP is working well for us as a family at the moment we’ve been having it fortnightly for 10months. 7 just me &dw last 3 months ds coming along too.

we’ve also deregistered him from school to lessen the pressure on us all while we fight for a specialist placement. this was drastic and has meant we’ve taken a big financial hit we’ll feel for a long time but had no idea how we’d have survived as a family living like we were.

We found really focussing on connection in the good moments , wearing ear loops, having a lot of sensory time together, and silly play, texting each other (the grown ups) to rant and swear to help let out our big emotions and hugely reducing pressure & demands on all of us became our survival techniques.

as pp said give yourself a little kindness each day.

you’re showing up for your kids!! You rock

honestly …. You will have better days 💐