Match has stopped due to kinship coming forward

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I have been going through adoption process with this with a child for a year and it dragged so much.

I had my matching with them back in sep 2025 and there was delays and just now been told a kinship have come forward they were asked right at the start and said no but right before I get the child this all happens.

I’m gutted and have the whole house ready, full wardrobes. Brand new toys, bedding, car seats all tailed to the age and sex of this child. So annoyed that they can do this so far Down the line and this has happened and now I’m back to square one with a house full of stuff tailored to that child .

That's awful. You are right to feel upset about this.

Have they been assessed yet or is that something that needs to happen now ?

They are in process but the have no issue so they are def going to get the child by the looks of it

So sorry, you must have a lot of mixed feelings.

Do you mean that you've been progressing this link for a year and then were more formally matched with them in September, or that you've been going through the adoption process for a year and then began to be matched with the child in September? Both are hard but the first option would be absolutely rediculous, firstly for the child and the delay to them but also for you!

Do you feel well supported by your SW and are they giving advice about how to proceed?

Are you considering options, leaving this match and having a short breather before looking at other links for example?

Though you are upset it is perhaps a good time to remember that adoption should always be about the child's best interest. Kinship care is usually better for the child.

I am so sorry this has happened you must be heartbroken! I suspect it
Perhaps Social Services should

Sorry don’t know what happened what was meant to be said was I suspect it’s not the money you have spent that hurts the most but perhaps Social Services should recompense you the money you have spent!
Take care of yourself!