Contacting adult adopted sibling

[Maziemouse]

Hi all I’m not sure if I have this in the right category, I’m looking to see if anyone has made contact with an adopted sibling and is trying to right them a letter for the first time? Im completely stuck as to what to say so if anyone has any advice I’d be really grateful for any advice and what to talk about as I’m really struggling with it. Thanks

Hi. Does she know about you or are you reaching out to someone who isn't aware? My daughters reconnected with birth half siblings when they turned 18 but I helped them with the help of social services. One decided not to pursue it. It's a tricky area. Could you get social services to help out?

Sorry I should have said, yes he knows about me a social worker is already involved and she communicates with us both. But this is our first line of communication between us. Thanks

Hi Maziemouse, you must be feeling lots of mixed emotions. I would, at this stage treat the letter as if you were writing to a pen pal (those of us my age will realise what that is!!). So I would tell him all about your life , where you live, what your house/flat is like (include pictures if you are happy to), what job you do, if you have any pets,what schools you went to, if you are married etc. You can tell him about your life as a child, not sure if you remained in the birth family or were also adopted, what your childhood was like, when you first found out about him. I would also include questions for him as well so that he can answer them in his reply.

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