SGO, BF aggressive

[Carrie264]

Hi, I'm new here so apologies if I say something I shouldn't 🙏

Me and my partner are starting the full SGO assessment with local authority. We are filing for an SGO for my partner's biological half brother, who is only 2 months old.

Biological father is mid 60's, battling cancer and has previously had children removed from his care, but is threatening us with conditions on the order he claims his solicitor will take to the court hearing. The conditions are about who the baby will be allowed to have contact with and that the baby must never call my partner's step father grandad.

Does anyone know if this is even possible for him to do? And how this could affect our application?

I'm concerned that a judge would view the hostility between BF and us as a negative thing and suggest adoption to an unrelated family would be the best option for the baby, especially as he is so tiny and doesn't have a real bond with biological family members yet.

Thanks!

Could you apply to adopt baby instead? You would then have full PR and would have full control of who has contact with baby and who they call grandad.

In short he is allowed to ask for these things but a judge will only agree of it is in the best interests of the child. For the contact, it depends whether there is a good reason to prevent it. For the title of your partner's stepfather, I cannot see this being granted unless there is loads of context missing.

He sounds tricky though so what you really need is a watertight court order that is clear on contact and any other rights you're concerned about, and a clear Support Plan. Have you got a good social worker, what have they said about the order and support plan?

They're unlikely to switch to adoption by the way unless the challenges really seem insurmountable. They will want to keep him with biological family if it is at all possible.

Honan thanks for your reply.

My partner's step father is actually the birth fathers full brother. So my partner's step dad is actually her uncle too. My partner's son and her brothers kids all know the step dad as grandad, and the biological father doesn't see any of them. That's why he's saying these things. He doesn't want the baby to know him as grandad because he himself doesn't have a relationship with his own grand children. And that's his own doing. He's abusive, been in and out of prison his whole life and had children removed from his care before. Very Jeremy Kyle I know, but that's the full story of it all.

I agree re SWs and the courts preferring to place with family.
Does stepdad want everyone to call him dad?

I'm a bit confused but hopefully I have this right:

Your DP has a birth dad who has been in and out of prison. He now has a new baby and baby's mum can't look after baby either.
Between your DP being born and this baby there were other siblings, and your DP and these siblings lived with your MIL and her new DH who is also DP's birth father's brother?

Yep that's right! It's not the "normal" family dynamic!

Step dad hasn't asked to be called grandad, just naturally happened as the kids all see him married to their Nan and they don't know their biological grandad.

We are meeting with social worker this Sunday and since I posted we have had to report BF to police for harassment and stalking of my partner's step dad!!

Our hope now is that we are successful with our application and that the care plan can include something to ensure BF visits baby through a contact centre or similar due to his aggressive attitude towards us.

Oh @Carrie264 that's horrible for your partner, but should work in your favour in court when it comes to arguing for a clear, supervised contact schedule.