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9 replies

Fruitbat99 · 08/05/2025 15:56

So little one came home 2 weeks ago. And today my landlords agent has phoned to say they are selling our house. Theyve said they are advertising and listing it as tenanted and for an investor.

I'm on the verge of tears. I dont know what to do. Is this going to disrupt placement?

I'd appreciate any advice and hand hold please.

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Arran2024 · 08/05/2025 16:01

Oh that's bad luck. But I don't think it would disrupt the placement. Sws want it to work x

Fruitbat99 · 08/05/2025 16:18

Arran2024 · 08/05/2025 16:01

Oh that's bad luck. But I don't think it would disrupt the placement. Sws want it to work x

Thank you. I'm really hoping a landlord will buy it and we can stay. I've spent a lot of money decorating and making improvements and will find it hard to find another place as we have 2 dogs and 2 cats. Just very paranoid they'll serve me a section 21 notice and social workers will think my life is unstable.

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Torvy · 08/05/2025 19:40

God I have no advice but my word what a dick move from the landlord.

Do you have anywhere that you can move to in an emergency? Drawing on your support network if needed? Having a clear and well thought out plan might reassure a worried social worker, so maybe moving in with parents or something? Although they would probably have to be DBs checked.

Is there anyone who could at least look after your pets for a while if you needed to move into temporary accomodation?

Fruitbat99 · 08/05/2025 20:16

Torvy · 08/05/2025 19:40

God I have no advice but my word what a dick move from the landlord.

Do you have anywhere that you can move to in an emergency? Drawing on your support network if needed? Having a clear and well thought out plan might reassure a worried social worker, so maybe moving in with parents or something? Although they would probably have to be DBs checked.

Is there anyone who could at least look after your pets for a while if you needed to move into temporary accomodation?

I actually feel pretty sick right now, just thinking about it.

I can put the dogs/cats into a boarding kennel.

My parents live at the other end of the country, and I dont think any friends would be able to put us all up.

I can pay for a holiday let until something comes up.

I'm just so worried that a landlord won't buy it. I feel so angry at the landlord. The agent asked last week to come round to value the house for the landlord to get another mortgage on it. So that was just lies.

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Torvy · 09/05/2025 05:27

I know there are probably a million reasons, all perfectly reasonable to the landlord, but I'm just so sorry you are left in this position. Hopefully it will be another landlord and it will simply continue as is, but I can imagine this huge stressor is not helping your anxiety at a time like this.

The only thing I can suggest is nagging at the agents to keep you informed as much as possible, and maybe asking them to let the landlord know your situation? It may be that if the landlord has a portfolio of houses, they could sell another one instead, if they are just thinking of offloading one of many in the same area. My parents are landlords and they are quite invested in their tenants lives, so have delayed a sale for 6 months where there was domestic violence and the woman would have been made homeless, or waived deposits for a kid who had just left the army and stuff like that. I guess that's not maybe typical, but possibly worth a shot?

onlytherain · 09/05/2025 19:11

Your social worker bears some responsibility for this situation. We were living in a rental flat and had to obtain written confirmation from our landlady stating that we could stay for at least another two years before matching. If your sw claims that your placement is at risk, you might want to mention this. It was partly their job to identify and mitigate this risk.

Arran2024 · 09/05/2025 20:30

onlytherain · 09/05/2025 19:11

Your social worker bears some responsibility for this situation. We were living in a rental flat and had to obtain written confirmation from our landlady stating that we could stay for at least another two years before matching. If your sw claims that your placement is at risk, you might want to mention this. It was partly their job to identify and mitigate this risk.

I don't think the sw has claimed the placement is at risk - OP is just worried.

I have known people split up months after placement, also someone whose partner committed suicide and the remaining parent was reassessed as a single parent. Sws don't easily stop a placement.

Fruitbat99 · 09/05/2025 21:39

onlytherain · 09/05/2025 19:11

Your social worker bears some responsibility for this situation. We were living in a rental flat and had to obtain written confirmation from our landlady stating that we could stay for at least another two years before matching. If your sw claims that your placement is at risk, you might want to mention this. It was partly their job to identify and mitigate this risk.

As in they should have made sure my tenancy was secure? No one asked me anything about my tenancy.

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Torvy · 10/05/2025 06:39

@Fruitbat99 oh that's quite unusual, I think they normally do. It's both a supportive and preventative measure- I know our social worker said that she needed to check we had a mortgage (and could afford it!) and made sure we would commit to paying that over, say a gym membership (I laughed at her when she said that, it's why it stuck in my head). She then actually mentioned she had written to one landlord for a couple who had mentioned they weren't sure about their landlord letting them have a kid, and they might have to move and he had written back confirming they could stay. Her teaching from that was it a lesson in tenacity approaching authority figures and knowing the law about kids etc. She was a bit old school belt and braces though, and had a story for everything (I think some of them were made up because they so conveniently illustrated the point she was trying to make to us!). It's frustrating that this didn't happen for you, but it does leave a possible pathway for the 'get the social worker to write to the landlord explaining the situation' idea if they hadn't already committed. Not all landlords are completely heartless, and you never know the dynamics at play. Maybe they know someone who adopted and will hold off selling for a bit, maybe a letter from a SW might feel official and scare them because it seems like it comes from the council, maybe it might just given them something to tell their friends about how they helped a vulnerable kid and a single mum. Who doesn't like being a hero in the retelling? I mentioned this situation to my dad and he said gruffly that if one of his tenants told him that they were in your situation he would hold the house for them for 3 years "for the kid, you know?" But like I said, he's a bit of a soft touch. It doesn't really matter, it's worth a shot. Even having 6 months of certainty might be helpful to get your ducks in a row, or just the prior knowledge that you will get information in a timely fashion is better than the uncertainty you have now. Of course, additionally there are lots of complications because the house might not sell, there might be a chain, it isn't an easy fix, but the more knowledge you have the better.

Anyway, I suspect the social worker will want to protect the placement to reduce trauma, and if I were a social worker I would be thinking that whilst some movement in living might be traumatic, to me it seems like a smaller trauma than disrupting an otherwise appropriate placement. If it disrupted she would have to move into foster care again anyway, so in terms of difference, the main difference I can see is whether she has another different primary care giver or not.

I really hope everything goes the way you want it to in the end. Please do keep us updated!

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