Hi all, just looking for some advice.
my ex and I are separated, and share the care 50/50 and it’s been a number of years.
we adopted our child when she was a baby, she’s 12 now. We agreed to letterbox contact in the beginning, and did it for a number of years. With only one letter coming back in all the years from birth family.
there has been a sibling born recently and birth family want to restart letterbox communication.
our daughter has faced numerous problems throughout the years, with emotional and behavioural issues. She has also recently been diagnosed with ADHD. She is now in a much better place and dealing with things a lot better. She is still very emotional and fixates on things, she doesn’t deal well with change or unexpected news. I personally feel restarting this letterbox communication will derail her and her issues may start to show themselves or be escalated.
I deal with the majority of the outbursts and problems when she is in my care. I’m the one that takes her to appointments and arrange, my ex wants to restart the letterbox but I really do feel it’ll do more harm than good. Am I wrong in trying to protect her when my ex is pushing for it to restart?
my daughter isn’t emotionally mature enough to deal with this, and I’m worried that it will unsettle or upset her.
Does anyone know who I can talk to legally about this? My child’s mental health and wellbeing is paramount. I’m only trying to protect her. Which is what any parent would do.