Need help connecting with older teen

[Treeoflife21]

Can Anyone offer suggestions to connect with older teen who has become very withdrawn and disconnected.

Can you get some post adoption support?

We are having trouble with our 14 year old.

What are the issues?

I’m not sure what through, he’s over 18, so an adult. Has his own mind etc. he’s just too withdrawn from everyone and resides to have conversatione with us. I try not to question him too much as he just gets snappy if I do

@Treeoflife21

I found texting a good way of communicating. It enables them to keep some distance but you can show you're still thinking about them.
Keep it light to start with, maybe say something like you've cooked dinner and put a plate aside for them when they're ready.

Hopefully when you have established some communication, you might get to more important issues
Teenage years are so hard - but do bear in mind it's quite normal for teenagers to turn into stroppy difficult young people. The problem of course is trying to suss put what is normal teenage miserableness and when there is something deeper going on.

Is he happy being like this? Is the issue that he is generally like this with you, with life, or just with you?

If you are in England, you can apply for asf therapy, but he would have to agree to it and he might not.

My daughter had therapy when she was 18. The therapist had lots of different ways of interacting - he said they could make a film, put together a music playlist, paint, make a craft project, it didn't have to be sitting talking (though that's what she chose).

If therapy isn't an option, maybe therapy for you. They do say you can't change someone but you can change how you behave, and often if we change, they change.