Pre matching

[Lioness2025]

Hello we are in pre match stage for our second little one ( adoption ). Little one has been in care since birth and has been part of care proceedings since. Adoption placement order was granted 10 months ago . We’ve been in matching stage for 4 months and have matching panel in a week. Have met little one etc. suddenly foster carers have come forward pre-matching panel & said they now want to adopt. All professionals still want lo to be placed with us but foster carers have a right to an assessment. Any experiences ? We are heartbroken!

Oh god. Have they said how long that will take? Sorry no experience in this. But I've been thinking a similar thing will happen with my match. Foster family seem v v attached and obstructive.

Oh God that’s a nightmare. Hopefully your social worker will really interrogate why it’s taken them so long to say they want him. Ten months post Order is a long time for him not to have been placed. Have social work said they’re going ahead with matching panel? Where in the UK are you because process are different across the four nations.

This happened to us many years ago with our first adoption, the foster carers suddenly decided they wanted to adopt him when they knew we were interested. SW was brilliant and said if we were rejected they would be considered. Fortunately we were accepted, however the introductions were awful and they objected everything we did. Thankfully we got through and got the most lovely boy!
Just as a daft add on they insisted he was christened the day we brought him home and I am a good “Jewish” girl.I am certain it would not happen now!
Good luck and hang on in there!

Why has it taken so long? I’m fostering a baby and have been assuming once the final court hearing happens if she is to be adopted it will happen within a few weeks! Could it be that because it’s taken so long foster carers feel that the little one is so settled with them and it will be too traumatic for them to move on to a new home? Personally I’m hoping the baby I’m looking after either reunites with parents or gets adopted as soon as possible because I think it would be best for her to leave me as young as is possible so she doesn’t really understand she’s never going to see me again. If the process drags on for months and months then I might have to think about what I think would be best for her. So right now I have no plans to adopt her and dont want to adopt her. But that could change as it might have done for this little one and her foster carers.