Help needed

[BeIcySeal]

I currently have a toddler myself from a previous relationship and my partner has 2 again from a previous relationship. I am currently 12 weeks pregnant and have an abortion booked in however I am not sure if I want to go ahead. I am
so unsure to the point I broke down in the hospital on a previous date I was meant to get the procedure. I know what’s best for our situation as we are not living together and have other children to think about but I truly feel like I’m not sure if I can go ahead. Open to all opinions and questions.

Together for for 2 years next year.

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That sounds very difficult. I would ask myself: What is your partner's view? What are your finances like? What is your previous partner's involvement with your child like? How often do you have your partner's children? Would your partner consider moving in together? Why did you first decide on an abortion, and why did you not go through with it? Would you consider adoption (it seems you do, since you have posted on this board)? Have you sought out specialist counselling/advice?

It is a decision only you can make. Only you can know if you would deeply regret and abortion or if it might be the better solution in your specific circumstances. With regards to adoption: Children fair best in their birth families. However, if you chose adoption, there are lots of prospective adopters out there who would love your child just like you would. Good luck with your decision.

@BeIcySeal

It sounds like a very difficult situation.

As you have posted on the adoption forum are you considering carrying the baby to term and then seeking adoption?

The first thing I'd say is that if you don't want an abortion don't have one. You know the longer you leave it, the more traumatic it will be.
So if you think that's the right course of action then try and go ahead as soon as possible.
If you wanted to consider adoption I'm sure there are lots of prospective adopters out there who would give your child a loving home and good future.
However, most adopters will tell you that the best place for a child is with birth family who can love and care for them.
Be aware that giving a child up for adoption is not a simple matter and there will be a long process, reports and courts involved. Don't underestimate how hard it would be to hand over a baby you have carried and given birth to.
If you wanted to go ahead with adoption be aware that it is also not just your decision. Sws will make every effort to place the baby with family, either yours or the fathers.
What does the father want?
Whatever decision you make is likely to have long term implications.
I'd strongly advice you to talk to someone in real life and go through all the options and ramifications
There have been several women here in the last few years who had planned to give their baby up for adoption at birth. None of them could go through with it.
Good luck with such a difficult decision and keep posting here, no one will judge

If you don’t want the abortion don’t have it. The rest will work itself out, all will be ok.