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Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on adoption.

Which agency? (Southwest)

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Cluelessasacucumber · 11/11/2024 21:47

Hi all,
VERY early days for us and still figuring out if we'll go down the adoption route at all (I have ALOT of questions). Just getting started with enquiries and feeling a bit confused about agencies so would appreciate any experiences.

Barnardos, I've contacted filled in the form etc but I feel like I'm talking to a bot. Have asked the same question 3 times but no personal response.

Ccs have been really responsive and we found the info session really helpful. Like the sound of the post adoption support but it all sounds quite bristol centric.

Adoption South West I've got an info day booked in but know nothing else. Assume these guys are the local authority agency?

Are there any others in SW? What do people mean when they say private agencies?

I find it so weird that you have to pick one and they sort of do a business pitch!

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Torvy · 12/11/2024 07:21

So your local authority will probably have a regional adoption agency. They are basically the ones who get "first dibs" on placing any child placed for adoption. They tend to have a broader acceptance level of adopters because they will have in house placements.

Voluntary adoption agencies tend to be more selective. If a regional adoption agency can't place within their area (which, remember, can be quite large, so don't be dissuaded), they can essentially pay for a VAA to arrange a placement and support the placement after the child has been placed. That means VAAs are more likely to have more stringent criteria (they don't get paid unless they find the right match and so they need to be sure that all adopters are likely to find a match), but also able to offer more specialist support. They sometimes have specialisms, and more targeted groups they work with. They can place children nationwide through something called link maker, basically a website where you match potential parents to children via their social workers. If you can't find an appropriate match withing a certain period of time with them, you will be given access to linkmaker to look for a match further afield. Usually this is a couple of months after approval, or it is in our area.

It's worth remembering that a child may be considered hard to place for a variety of reasons, including local connections, lack of diversity in the area or a lack of suitable adopters known to the RAA- because the RAA handle adoption training and adoption of children, they have a reasonable sense of who is coming through the system at both ends and will know whether a child is likely to find a placement within their own pool. It doesn't necessarily mean they are intrinsically more difficult. They will use link maker to find matches.

We went with an RAA because they were less concerned with BMI (some VAAs basically said if you were even a bit overweight, you couldn't adopt with them), and we didn't mind a local placement. However post adoption support can be more patchy with RAAs, and obviously on a smaller scale than some of the VAAs can manage.

Look carefully at what support the offer post adoption is, and think about what type of child you would like to adopt. From my experience, RAAs tend to place younger children or those with less complex backgrounds internally, and try to limit linkmaker to more complex cases (siblings, medical needs, transracial placements are some examples).

Everything said above is a very broad generalisation, so please don't take it as gospel. There will always be someone who has had a different experience or views things through a different lens. Also remember that adoption support post placement can come from a variety of other places, so it isn't just limited to the agency you go with. Don't dismiss local support- we have found it invaluable where offers have been local, because travelling with kids can be an absolute nightmare. Knowing where to find a decent OT, or a nurse who knows their stuff about FASD in your local area, or which primary schools deal really well with trauma is not knowledge to be sniffed at.

I can't say I have experience with any of the agencies above personally, but some close adopted friends have had quite positive experiences of Barnardo's.

Cluelessasacucumber · 12/11/2024 08:01

Thanks @Torvy that's a really helpful explainer! It's a whole new world of terminology and processes, so very grateful to get some insights from people who have been there before.

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rabblenotrebel · 12/11/2024 09:56

My experience has been different, in that my perception is LAs are looking to place "in house" and are looking for more conventional adopters- two parents, no kids, probably quite conforming in terms of heteronormative society etc. Whereas VAAs can take the more unusual family set ups and see the value in those, casting the net wider to find families for "hard to place" children.

We went with a VAA because they promised lifelong support ... Which evaporated.

My advice is speak to all, and see who will support YOU through the process and after. Don't worry too much about "pools" of children, or "hard to place" as you are only looking for one (or maybe a sibling group) child, and they could be labelled "hard to place" but that's a fairly meaningless descriptor when it comes to parenting. Hard to place isn't always hard to parent.

I've DM'd you about my particular experience.

onlytherain · 14/11/2024 20:00

I would go with your gut feeling. We waited 4 months to be able to start with a certain VAA. That was one of the best decisions of my life. They offered an open door policy and longterm support. They are amazing.

Nonameyet1 · 14/11/2024 20:18

We used Adopt South West and they were really good for us.

The information sessions are really informative - and they invite adopters to talk at them - I’ve done a few. This way it gives you a real insight to adoption in practice.

Cluelessasacucumber · 14/11/2024 21:20

Thanks all, really helpful to hear your experiences

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lemontart13 · 15/11/2024 16:36

Agencies like Barnardos can sometimes feel impersonal at first because they handle so many inquiries, but it might help to persist or follow up directly with a phone call to get a clearer sense of their approach.

Private agencies are usually non-profit organizations that may offer a more tailored approach but can vary widely in their resources. You don’t need to rush into any decisions—take your time to weigh how responsive, supportive, and approachable each agency feels to you.

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