New relationship boyfriends

[OneCosyHelper]

Hi I no of someone who has 3 children in adoption. But she has a new male partner now she wants to send pictures of her and her partner via letterbox contact to her 11year old daughter 10year old daughter and 4 year old son
But is there a policy where you can send pictures of your new partner in to letterbox contact??

I spoke to a solicitor today and they said this should not be allowed and apprently there an order they can put against an ex partner
But ladies and some gents that are disguised out there
What are you views please ??

why is it in the children best interest to have these pictures?

I'd expect that wouldn't get through letterbox tbh, and can't think why she thinks her birth children would want to see her new partner.

@Jellycatspyjamas I'm in a position where photos of Mums new partner are being sent along with letters signed by both with reference made to him as Dad. Should I be speaking to someone in SW about this? I assumed as they were getting through there was no problem on their end with this. LO is at a stage where they cannot read the letters so I don't mention the partner as it isn't appropriate but there will come a point they can read.

I am not sure I understand your post correctly. Are the adopted children 11, 10 and 4 or are these different children? Who are the letterbox letters for? You? Your little one? The 11,10 and 4 year old you mention? Who are you to the children, their dad?

Sounds like it might be none of your business

I don't see a problem. My girls' birth mother told us all about her new partner and sent pictures from their wedding. Their birth father told us all about his new partner and their children when they came along.

As long as he isn't a paedophile it should be fine. The idea is to keep up to date on what is going on in their lives.

But with terminology like step dad in the poll being used for a bm new partner it doesn’t feel healthy at this early stage to be sending pictures of someone the children don’t know. If it’s an established relationship I think that’s different

We receive pictures of BM's new husband and their child. But in the context it is OK.
New chap was some time after the adoption and was taken slowly before we saw pictures. New child is 16 years younger.

Would not be happy if it was all quick as could be v disrupting.