Toilet training

[GracieHC]

I’ve been toilet training my little boy for months now. He’s 3 with no known or suspected needs.
he’s more than capable as he doesn’t like pooing in nappy when out and has told me on more than one occasion he needs a poo and has held it until we got home.
We’ve just got back from holiday where he was clean the whole time with no real input from us apart from putting him on the toilet every couple of hours.
Back home today he was excited to wear big boy pants and clean all morning whilst we were playing, but as soon as I left him to get showered he pooed in them. Which leads me to think it’s all about attention (which of course he had loads of on holiday). I’m at my wits end. Any suggestions?
just to add I would have heard him if he had called out that he needed one so it was a choice not an accident.

@GracieHC we have had our 3 1/2 AD with us for 5 months, I wasn’t planning on doing her potty training till now in the hot weather. However back in May she asked to wee on the potty and we carried on doing that for a couple of weeks. After she had been completely clean for 3 days I asked if she wanted to wear knickers and she hasn’t gone back since then.

what I will say is we had some accidents, one specifically similar to yours, she was playing in her playroom and I was cooking and she did a poo in her knickers and came to me and said I’ve done a poo. So we sorted it out and had a chat about telling me when she needs it and that we can’t choose to poo in knickers (had to throw them away 🤮). She hasn’t done that since.

only a few wet accidents but mainly a leak because she left it too late to get to the toilet. Haven’t had any of these now for about a month.

i would say don’t give up because of a poo accident that seemed by choice, he could have been so engrossed in what he was doing he just didn’t have time so had to go in his pants. They will figure it out in their own time. If it starts happening regularly I would go back to no nappy and no pants so he can get used to not having anything near his bottom or willy and see how that goes.

hope that helps.

also with the nighttime. We stopped the pull ups with the nighttime about a month later as she has been dry for over 2 weeks (apparently this is hormone related though so definitely child dependent on when you can ditch the nighttime nappies)

hope this helps, good luck.

:)

Toilet training is always one step forward, one step back. At 3 he doesn’t developmentally have a grasp of cause and effect so try not to think of him purposely doing it. He’s had the excitement of holidays and coming back home - it’s much more likely he got caught up in what he was doing and forgot. Your being there makes it easy for him to ask, because your presence can act as a prompt. It’s likely he’ll have accidents now and again - how you respond will make a huge difference ie no fuss, no telling off, just quickly changed and back to whatever he was doing. The more relaxed you are the quicker he’ll get the hang of it.

Similar here 3 1/2 year old boy who noticed other kids at nursery were using potty/toilet so decided he would too. We managed first few weeks absolutely fine but every now and again he gets distracted with playing etc and has an accident. Like others have said it is a bit up and down. Good luck x