Previous Relationships Advice

[scottishadopters]

Hi All,

Long time lurker here. Finally got the documentation pack through and after pondering for a while I thought you guys would have the best advice.

The section regarding previous co-habiting relationships is pickling my brain. I, nor my partner (both 30) have ever lived with ex partners. We have had on and off relationships but never taken the step to up and move in. We met in our mid teens as friends, I worked abroad for years and started talking again before COVID and decided to be each others bubble, sparking the move in together. I'm just a little concerned the SW may think this a red flag or that we are trying to hide something.

Anyone been in a similar position?

What would they think you’re trying to hide?
My husband and I were friends through work for a few years, then during COVID started a relationship. We got married and then moved in together. We both had previous relationships, but neither of us loved with our partners. We are both early 30’s. The previous partners question isn’t not something we’ve given much thought to as none of the relationships were serious enough to move in together 🤷🏻‍♀️

Thanks for your reply Row. I don't know really, after reading all of the posts about ex partner references and horror stories, I guess I was a bit anxious the SW may have thought we were trying to hide a bad past relationship or something. Most of my friends had moved in (often to have to move back out again) in their early 20s.

Reassuring reading your reply though :)

I was in my late 30s when we started the process and had never lived with anyone until I met got married mid-thirties. I really don’t think it’s anything to worry about. Good luck!

Same here. Never lived with anybody or had a serious relationship prior to meeting OH in my mid 30’s. We did discuss why I hadn’t during stage two but it wasn’t a big deal.