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Mothers' Day

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UnderTheNameOfSanders · 10/03/2024 11:11

This day is usually so full of conflicts for me, and today is no exception.

Adult eldest has given me a card in her new name that she recently announced (no prior discussion) she has chosen for herself. So I have a card from a stranger's name.

Youngest has wished me happy mothers' day and gone back to bed. I know she has made a card but it hasn't been forthcoming yet.

I'm peaceful, but so tired.

I hope everyone on this board finds a way through today if it is one you struggle with.

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Ted27 · 10/03/2024 12:00

@UnderTheNameOfSanders

Hope you can enjoy your day.

Strange one here. Big boy has gone back to uni, its our first mother's day apart. But he has left a card and present. He will call later and its a big footie match this afternoon so we will be texting.
I also have 13 year old fosterling. I've had two cards from him, one weeks ago and one hand made in school earlier this week. He does not see his mum and its a huge issue for him. So I'm not making a huge fuss about the day.
We sent presents up to my parents and will call as its also my.step dad's birthday today so that's about it.

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Jellycatspyjamas · 10/03/2024 16:03

Happy Mothers Day. My DS made me breakfast with coffee served in a new “mum” mug that he bought from school, my DD made me an animation with songs and photos. Both things off their own initiative, which makes them very precious. We’re going out for dinner with their dad tonight, which will be lovely.

@UnderTheNameOfSanders my DD has started talking about a name change - she’s really struggling with life story work and, I think, wants to distance herself from her birth mum. I’m struggling with just talking about it so I can imagine how it feels to have a card with a strange name. 💐

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UnderTheNameOfSanders · 10/03/2024 16:08

My head understands why she wants to do it.
But my heart doesn't. It feels like a rejection of us, which is stupid really as we didn't name her.

Parenting doesn't end when they get to 18 does it?

Lovely hand done card from youngest appeared at lunch time. And flowers from DH when he came home from his 'hobby' (not cycling).