ok, i'm the guardian of the most fantastic lil' guy. i've known 'T' since he was 18 months - thats when i met his mum, but we are not together now. we broke up and didn't speak for a year. then we met, as mates. we are NOT together however i'm the closest thing lil' T has to a DAD; his own father is a selfish, violent (pick a name) who is persuing an entirely seperate family. I love them all as if they were my own; and i love T's mum as much as i did when i proposed to her. we are the best of freinds. soul mates. but is is tearing me apart. this is starting to be at the expense of a potential career. i have no qualms in ditching the career in favour of family, but with T's mum persuing other romantic interests what do i do? she insists that there is no future for us, i'm in it for the long haul, but should i scuttle any expectations? i'm lost. help?