Hi all
I just need a vent with like minded people.
in a nutshell , our adopted kids finally arrived last October after a lengthy delay due to BD opposing adoption.
there has been numerous court hearings this year , as he continues to oppose. Now he says he doesn’t oppose the adoption , wants a contact order now, therefore lengthens the process again.
we are against any face to face contact. Mainly due to risk to the kids and historic concerns. Also a final goodbye was done last year for one of the kids , to be fair introducing BD again we feel would have implications for this child.
also BD was against a same sex couple adopting these kids. He made it very clear his thoughts on this. Although we’ve been told this was said in emotion, we can’t help but feel it wasn’t.
we’ve been told that he more than likely will get contact. It is so unfair , the kids have come on so much whilst being with us. We feel like we’ve been backed into a corner and nobody seems to be taking on board what we’re saying and our concerns.
we’ve always agreed to letterbox, and then supporting the kids when they are older. They are too young and the emotional impact on them would be too great.
we’re 13 months in this process and we’re no further forward. We feel very defeated and down trodden. Kids SW doesn’t seem to be very supportive in some respects, we feel that she has known he always wanted face to face contact.
anyways thanks for listening to our rant.
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Wonkavision · 10/07/2023 23:12
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