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Meowmum · 11/06/2023 12:25

Hi there, I am trying to find out whether there’s any financial help available for people attempting to adopt a child. The situation is;

a lady who I know and work with in cat rescue lives in Cyprus, she is a midwife and back in January, she delivered a refugee’s baby. The birth mother didn’t want the baby for several reasons and initially decided she would sign her over for my friend to adopt. 3 months have to pass to give the birth mother an opportunity to change her mind. At one point she did, but never took any action over it. We think she had been told ‘if you keep the baby, you’ll never be sent back to Somalia’ The 3 month wait was over early May, however they cannot find the birth mother, she failed to show up at meetings and has not responded to various communications. The adoption process is at a standstill. Without official adoption, my friend is not entitled to any form of maternity pay, so she is earning nothing, whilst being a mother to a baby that may or may not be part of her family in future.

she is struggling mentally with the process and now the financial hardship is adding to this. I just wondered if anyone knew of any charities that could help my friend in this interim period. Thank you ❤️

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ababababa · 11/06/2023 13:41

I am sorry to hear about your friend's situation.

As she is in Cyprus she will need to follow the Cypricut legal process.

I highly doubt that anyone here will be able to advise on any charities in Cypris that would be able to help.

Your friend's best bet is to reach out to Adoption groups etc based in Cyprus.

Lwrenagain · 11/06/2023 16:02

This is so tricky because of the confidentiality of the baby etc you couldn't even do a go fund me I suppose? 😔 I'd be looking into charities as PP said x

foreverandever22 · 11/06/2023 16:56

Was the birth registered etc?
This sounds so dodgy, your friend needs to contact the authorities in Cyprus and get official help and support.
She may not be able to keep the baby, but I'm not sure the child is hers to keep at this point.
Your friend can apply to legally foster/adopt the child then she might get help.
This is how children can end up getting trafficked so please tell your friend to contact the local authorities

ababababa · 11/06/2023 18:30

Another thing is that an adoption in Cyprus could potentially take years. A single adopter from England took 5 years to adopt her son under Ugandan laws.

And then if that's completed your friend may need to go through a separate adoption process in england - the one that we have to go through. It's something to do with the Hague Convention.

ohmustyou · 11/06/2023 18:58

The best advice is from social services in Cyprus, who are managing the private fostering arrangement.

Money isn't what's ringing alarm bells here.

2bazookas · 13/06/2023 11:25

Something is terribly "off" here. There are far more serious and urgent issues at stake for that child's welfare, than maternity pay.

Maternity pay is very temporary. So it's very hard to see how it plays any significant part in your friends longterm plan to adopt and raise this child.

It sounds as if, right from the outset, she hasn't planned how to afford to support herself and a child for 18 years as a single parent.

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