Ok we have been letterboxing for 5 yrs. The last 2 yrs have been awful. Its not the birth famiy but social services. Their communication is terrible. Nothing has been sent, theysay they have rung us but havent. Ive updated my details and spoke to so many people( because you never get the same person twice). I have to do all he chasing but im sick of it now and my dc has got to the point he no longer wants to participate. Tbh this doesnt seem worth it.
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ohmustyou · 11/06/2023 18:21
Letterbox is handled by the LA, and often handled poorly. It's incredibly difficult to write letters into the ether. Have you done it @foreverandever22 ?
UnderTheNameOfSanders · 04/06/2023 13:15
I don't think it is fair to give up just because SS are disorganised.
You don't need to involve your DC, just write from you to the BPs.
Thatgirl1981 · 12/07/2023 00:44
Please do not do this the reason why you go through ss is so your address is not disclosed and anything threatening or crazy is intercepted before they reach you or your child
UnderTheNameOfSanders · 04/06/2023 13:15
I don't think it is fair to give up just because SS are disorganised.
You don't need to involve your DC, just write from you to the BPs.
UnderTheNameOfSanders · 12/07/2023 07:45
You misread i think.
I didn't say cut out social services (I agree that would be a bad idea).
I said continue writing but adult to adult, without involving the children.
Thatgirl1981 · 12/07/2023 00:44
Please do not do this the reason why you go through ss is so your address is not disclosed and anything threatening or crazy is intercepted before they reach you or your child
UnderTheNameOfSanders · 04/06/2023 13:15
I don't think it is fair to give up just because SS are disorganised.
You don't need to involve your DC, just write from you to the BPs.
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