Birth family on social media

[ladyjane101]

Hello,

I am very frustrated, angry as well as concerned. I was sent a link from a friend today that was a social media site, it contained photos of my adopted children. Their birth father and mother had obtained photos of my children from their birth sibling and posted them. These photos show inside of my house, my pets, outside of my house and even a partial reg plate.

Birth parents are not allowed photos of the children for this reason but birth sibling has handed some over (who is in care and has indirect Post box contact).

what can I do about this?? I have spoken to post adoption and told them that I will sever all contact with birth parents as letters were being exchanged via PB but they have never replied, and that the same applies to birth sibling who my children refuse to communicate with due to past trauma. Also one BP lives overseas.

Ant advice would be much appreciated.

Op how old are your kids?
If they are teens and don't want to talk with their birth sibling, I'd cut the contact, what's the point? You'd / the kids would be on edge the whole length of the visit

As for the birth parents sharing those photos I really wouldn't be impressed

Sorry this has happened. My son’s birth mum found him via some cousins who were in contact with his brother who is in residential care.
I’m not sure if there is anything legally you can do about the photos they have, I think you would need to contact the social media platform.

You don’t seem to be getting much from contact -its certainly not unreasonable to say that you won’t be sharing photos any more, but if your children don’t want to communicate with them I would just stop it all

I think of your children don’t want contact with their sibling, and are old enough to make that decision (I’d say from around 12ish onwards), I’d stop contact.

I know with my kids older sibling we discussed with social work the siblings ongoing contact with birth mum and so only shared things we would be ok going back to her - we’ve never shared photos, for that reason. You could see if she still has social work involvement and ask them to do some work with her re social media and posting photos but my sense is once she has them, it’s hard if not impossible to stop her doing what she wants with them.