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Interim care order

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Em97 · 25/12/2022 14:27

Very heartbreaking.my 2 toddlers have been taken from my care on an interim care order. Due to me being subject to domestic abuse. The last court date the children it was decided the children stay in care on an interim care order as my parenting of the children were not the problem. It was the domestic abuse that was going on. My and my partner have split and the courts put a none malestation order in place he's not allowed to be here or speak to us. If the order got breached the hildren would be removed immediately. I stood by this. Now aswell as this I have possession proceedings going on with my landlord who has been making things very difficult. Funnily enough my notice was left on the sofa at 1 point and my social worker took his number without me knowing and had been contacting him asking if he had seen my partner bear in mind this was before all the interim care order was granted this was during the plo stage. The landlord has made an allegation that he had come to the property at 3pm on the 11th December 22 and seen my ex sat on my sofa and there was no children present. Which is not true I had a video of my son playing I the room at 14:50 pm in the room near the window playing. J feel this was all planned the social worker had been speaking to my landlord 8 times . Why? I have no clue bizarrely to me. It was decided that that was breach of placement plan and a court date was set I gave physical evidence my ex partner gave evidence of his whereabouts and the landlord just said he seen him no physical proof. And the courts decided to remove the children immediately based on that. I feel the judge as very fair he keeps I thrusting me when I was giving my evidence which I'm sure a judge is meant to listen and judge not ask solicitor questions. Now this has happened what can I do to get my children back? Can I appeal? What changes do I need to make. The LA thing I'm not being honest and still believe I'm with my ex partner but I have been away from him for months .

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UnderTheNameOfSanders · 25/12/2022 14:44
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I'm so sorry the landlord was mistaken / lied.
I guess that SS have to act with caution, because if you were in contact with your ex that would be very serious. My DC ended up in foster care and we eventually adopted them because sadly their BM wasn't strong enough to break away from their father (though she eventually managed it some time after they were adopted and has gone on to build a new and better life for herself).

The main thing is to cooperate with SS, maybe do the Freedom course www.freedomprogramme.co.uk/ to help yourself and to show SS you really mean to keep away from your ex. Keep up whatever contact with your DC that is allowed.

Hope next year is happier for you.

Jellycatspyjamas · 25/12/2022 15:13

Given your housing situation sounds very precarious, and your children were subject to child protection concerns, social work will speak to your landlord to try and establish the likelihood of you losing your home. They’ll also enquire about whether your ex-partner has been around the house because it’s not at all unusual for people to lie especially where domestic abuse is involved.

The appeals/challenge process should have been explained to you when the interim care order was issued, so check any paperwork you have, or ask the child’s social worker. In terms of getting them returned to you, working with social work and the child protection plan is your best bet. Use the supports in place and ask for more support if you need it, go to any contact with your child and attend review meetings. Keep your ex out of your life and maintain clear boundaries.

Use this time to work on yourself so you can be the best possible parent for your child.

Em97 · 25/12/2022 19:42

Since having my children taken of me I secured a part time job on the weekends. I have completed an online domestic violence course and passed and have made a referral to freedom programme. Am j on the right path so far. The ss believe i am still having co tact with my ex partner but i have not What else can I do to show that I am and have gained my own Independence and prove that I am keeping away from him?

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Em97 · 25/12/2022 19:43

Since having my children taken of me I secured a part time job on the weekends. I have completed an online domestic violence course and passed and have made a referral to freedom programme. Am j on the right path so far. The ss believe i am still having co tact with my ex partner but i have not What else can I do to show that I am and have gained my own Independence and prove that I am keeping away from him?

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GoodTennis · 27/12/2022 08:34

I would suggest being open and honest with social workers. Despite their reputation they dont want to split up families. Ask them what they want to see from you and what you can do to prove you've fully separated from your partner. There may be some steps they want you to take which have not been clearly communicated and its not a time for ambiguity or misunderstanding.
You need to build that trust with them as they dont want to put the kids back into a violent environment.

PritiPatelsMaker · 27/12/2022 10:52

That seems like very good advice from GoodTennis.

Em97 · 27/12/2022 13:19

So if I prove to the courts I have made changes such as dv work gain my independence and the risks have reduced significantly would that be in my favour? Also can interim order be reviewed and how long does it last

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