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Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on adoption.

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Leiland-James

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koalakate99 · 26/05/2022 13:54

I am pregnant currently, so probably over emotional.

A few years ago, a cousin's baby was forcibly adopted, the family were not entirely happy about this, ( cousin does have some mental health and historic addiction issues, but was very, very willing to make changes for the baby and had support of both myself and wider family).

Thee one thing that has been some comfort to my cousin, ( and the family I suppose), is that the process for approving adopters was meant to be very stringent, and so the baby, ( foster care since birth, ten months when moved to adopters), should have been well cared for.

Now this. This awful story has caused such upset amongst us .

Can I ask, honestly, how rare is it for people this obviously unsuitable to be approved ? ( very, i'm hoping !!)

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-cumbria-61566996

My cousin is understandably in bits about this story.

Reading into it, it does seem awful, ( from other news articles), that his birth mum wanted to keep him, but soical services, ( who are meant to protect children), removed him at birth and placed him with a murderer who thought hitting babies was okay.

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rosiethefemaleone · 30/05/2022 10:08

No adopter claims to be perfect. What Laura Castle did is horrifying- she is an outlier.

@Grasscrowns You are clearly better than those adopters at your work- so why don't you do society a favour, and use those superior parenting skills to adopt a traumatised child?

Piratemam · 30/05/2022 20:29

It's a very distressing case. I have a lot of feelings about it. And it's in my neck of the woods.

I think SS really dropped the ball here. And I do wonder if the Castles asee

Piratemam · 30/05/2022 20:34

My phone ghost touched my reply before it was done.

I wonder if the Castles assessment was compromised because of Covid and being short staffed etc.

Our son was placed in the first lockdown and SS just disappeared, we had no check ins at all. It was awful. We were constantly emailing and phoning them and getting lots of promises but no action in response. I remember saying to my wife that they have no idea if we're looking after him properly or not. And it was horrible because I really needed some validation and advice too!

But in this case it sounds like they had quite a lot of support.

Definitely hugged my son tighter when the story broke.

Most of us are doing our best and love our children fiercely.

Rainallnight · 31/05/2022 20:29

@Marty13 , what’s your connection to adoption?

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